help please! advice?

Question

My best friend is in high school and she has a bf in college.they have been dating,off and on,for 3.5 years now. and she claims they used to have a really good realtionship.now he emotionally abuses her and it kills me.and hes not afraid to grab her.he tells her who she can hang out with and stuff.she claims shes in love with him but I dont think she is.shes been having really bad dreams lately and i think they relate to him.He tells us that she only needs him and im afraid hes going to take her somewhere.She doesnt tell her other friends about him either.just me and when i talked to her today she showed me that she is engaged.she said she would think about it and he got mad and broke it.shes probubly going to end up saying yes.please i dont know how to help her.i love her to death.i dont know if i should just be there for her.or stop her.im really afraid hes going to do something. please help.

Answer 1

I know this is a big no no to kids,but hear me out.your friend is suffering from battered women syndrome.from all indications her bf has self esteem the size of a pea.the only thing left to do before he gravely injures her is get her parents involved.She may hate you at first but would learn to forgive you.

Answer 2

I would tell her parents and your parents. Because if something ever happens to her, and it probably will unfortunately the adults in her life will know about it. Try talking to a school counselor about doing a group discussion on abuse. There is a lot of material that teachers and counselors have access to in which to share with girls who might be in this type of relationship.

Answer 3

while your concern is appreciated, there is nothing much you can do if your friend is acting on her own free will. You can take her to a cousellor but no one can help ( incase if thats what she needs) until she herself decides what good for her.

Answer 4

f I were you I would talk to her friends, parents, and others who are close to her to help her