What if it was all your fault in being dumped?

Question

What happens if the reason that he fell out of love with you because you weren't yourself or the person he did fall in love with in the first place. I wasn't myself for the last year (we were living together this year) of a 3 year relationship because of me being scared of losing him. I did extreme measures to make him happy, like being available to him all the time, letting him do what he wants avoiding any serious conflict (basicly losing my independence and identity). The reason why i did this was because he had committment issues in the past with me which made me think that if did everything to make him happy i won't lose him, but then he dumps me teliing me that he wasn't happy in the last couple of months and doesn't feel the same way by doesn't know why. I still love him and I regret in what I have done (in my case in losing myself first and then second, losing him)

it's been 3 months ever since we broke up, i have not made any contact with him, I have boosted my self esteem and independence, i travelled arond europe I moved in with my best girlfriend, started a new job, and i started dating, i feel happy about myself, but i still love him, these feelings haven't changed

Answer 1

ok, what if it was your fault.. now what?

Answer 2

Well, I'd say you just need to get over it. You can't hold onto someone who wants to leave no matter how you act or what you do. He would have found another excuse no matter how you "acted". Just be yourself next time. Once you find someone you're interested in seriously, this guy will be history. Godlovya.

Answer 3

You don't miss him, you miss the emotions you remember when you thought everything was okay. You can find those emotions with another man. Don't look back.

Answer 4

Good for you, keep going. Time will make any feelings you still have left for him dissipate.

Answer 5

faulting urself of ur past ll only destroy ur present. watch it