My boyfriend is driving me mad!! We've been together for about 2 years.?

Question

My bf moved back to Turkey in October last year to work as an engineer. In January I moved to Bodrum,Turkey+took a great job in real estate.This is where the problems started.

My boyfriend lives in another city.He insisted that he meet me at the airport even though I explained to him that the company had arranged everything...I just wanted to feel settled. He keeps visiting at short notice and I feel bad saying no all the time. To cut it short- I've been here 10 weeks and he's visited 5 times.

The first 2 weeks he called me every day without fail, just complaining about his job, which really wore me out. He left the company and is looking for a job.He wants to apply to my company, but I said 'no'. We had an argument the other day and he called me selfish.

He called my company this morning cos he couldn't reach me on my mobile all yesterday. I thought it was a bit weird.

We used to be so happy but I'm really starting to get cold feet about this whole relationship.

Answer 1

Ooooo!!!i feel bad for you:(

Answer 2

I might not be getting the gist of what you're saying here, but I don't think your boyfriend visiting 5 times in 10 weeks is excessive - what, he visits you once a fortnight? And I'm not surprised that he called your office when he couldn't reach you on your mobile, perhaps he was worried about your welfare, having tried to speak to you all day and not getting an answer. I also think that it was nice to him to meet you at the airport even though other arrangements had been made for you - he was probably looking forward to seeing you and wanted you to see a familiar face when you arrived in a strange place.

Answer 3

This sounds a bit strange. Ppl have mentioned how weird it is that 5 visits in 10 weeks is soffocating you. He calls you everyday. I call my gf everyday, in fact she wud probably be a touch upset if I didn't keep in touch somehow everyday. And this stuff about the airport is just silly, the boy wanted to see u and make u comfortable in a strange place.

The work situation I can sympathise with, that's your space and the environment that helps give u your own identity and someone else close to u, as well meaning as they may be, is threatening to invade that space and undermine your identity.

But overall it sounds to me that you're not that keen on this lad, but he's attentive and keen on u (as any normal bf wud be). U don't wanna break it off but u still want things kept casual and distant to suit u, which is leadin him on and a selfish on your part.

Answer 4

Why dont you just split up with him, It doesnt sound like you want to be with him anyway and your the one pushing him away.
surely been in a strange country a surprise visit from your boyfriend would be great, but I can tell your happy with your life and happy to only see him on your terms. this is not fair on him and you should cut him lose for his own good.

Plus if i couldnt reach you on your mobile ALL DAY do you not think he may have been worried and thats why he called you at work to check you were ok, you dont seem to have any regard for his feelings

Answer 5

This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book
where all of the sayings and preaching of
Rabbis are conserved over time.
It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman
cry, because God counts her tears. The woman
came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but
from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be
protected, and next to the heart to be loved."

Answer 6

hate to say this but many times that is how a woman reacts with her man he is clingy and is obsessed with you this could be a bad sign or he is just a self concious about your relationship or insecure in his own way he obviously loves you or beleives he is but he is smothering as well you need to talk to him and tell him you are BF/GF not married and need some time alone as well as with him if this doesn't improve I say break it off you are obviously a little tanked about it and it may cost you your job if he is calling your company alot if you want to stay with him reassure him or let him go if you don't want to be with him or can't take it anymore

Answer 7

5 times in 10 weeks, how can you even call him your boyfriend!!

I think your the one being selfish here! If your sick of him, finish with him!!

I speak to my boyfriend twice maybe 3 times a day on the phone, we live together so i see him everyday and we have been together 3 years.

What is you problem???

Answer 8

Tell him to get lost the looser and you feel claustraphobic and that he doesnt trust you ovbiously so the relationship needs a review but then agen hes in a strange place and he may just be feeling scared and alone i suggest a serious 1-1

Answer 9

Well sweetie, the honeymoon is over and you are doing all the work and your intuition and instincts are right on the money
come home and start to have a life of your own and all will be Great!
Guys are Jerks! huh ladies?

Answer 10

often times when we enter relationships at an early age we both grow and mature---often in different ways---then one day we discover the one we once was so attracted so is no longer the same person we once found so attractive-------they changed and we changed also----------sometimes it is best to just say good-bye it's been nice.

Answer 11

Tell him it's against company policy to have couples working together because it's to distracting and bringing personal life into job doesnt work very well...