she can not control herself when her dad and i spend time together. what can i do? she is nice to me when we are alone, buit when her father is in the icture se is totally weird and seems very jealous. please advise.
2007-03-18 23:36:06 · 7 answers · asked by bebe4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This girl needs some professional counseling. She's very insecure and it's unlikely that you and her father are prepared to deal with this. Ask her school counselor for the name of a therapist and do everyone a favor. Get help. Godlovya.
2007-03-18 23:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go easy! It's almost like a little wild cat afraid to lose the only thing that she has assumed was hers after the love of her life abandoned her... In her little mind, she fears she might lose him too if he were to prefer another person over her. She sees you as a competitor for her father's affections. If I were you, I'd be most considerate of that fact and would leave her be when you're all together. For instance, let her be the one to sit next to him at the table, etc. and don't try to act as though her love for her dad is not only normal but will be a given for the rest of her life. When you are alone and have a chance, try to discreetly draw her out of herself, gently... re-assure her that her dad's love for her is eternal and that nothing and no one will ever replace her in his life. It's possible that she could use some professional help to help her deal with mom's suicide. Ask him to look into that... She could be more affected than you can imagine by it and even the guilt of it can be killing her inside. Kids always think it's their fault somehow. Get her the help she needs. ASAP
2007-03-18 23:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is unorganized with this teen lady.... This teen is getting 2 distinctive messages from 2 distinctive families. Her mom says she's allowed to do X Y & Z and you and your husband tell her she will't. it is different confusion for the form of youthful teen. What i could do in a project such as you and your husband have precise now's deliver her to boarding college. Have your husband call her mom and communicate on the topic of the assumption. In a boarding college she will have one set of regulations to stick to, no exceptions, her college artwork would be on time. Then while she comprises pass to you each and each different weekend, use the regulations that the faculty has, No exceptions. next call her mom on the topic of the boarding college rule plan while she visits her mom, and notice if she would be on board with the regulations at her place, the comparable regulations because of the fact the boarding college. As for punching you interior the face, do not call the police this time, if she does it a 2nd time, then by employing all capacity. For now you, your husband and her mom would desire to talk and get this teen below administration. permit her mom be responsive to that if she punches you interior the face you will call the police and which you hate which you're able to would desire to try this. sturdy good fortune with this project.
2016-12-19 08:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you would never try to replace her mom. ask her what you can do to make her feel more comfortable with her dad being remarried. try to include her as much as possible, you need your time together alone but don't exclude her from things she can be involved in with you and her dad. most of all just love her and let her know you are always there for her if she needs you. and you may want to loo into a counselor, but don't do it without talking to her dad and to her, she will resent you if you do that without asking her opinion!! good luck!!
2007-03-18 23:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do things with her..just you and her and then in time spend time with all of you together...make sure you let her know that you don't want to and never will replace her mother. That is a very important thing to hear from YOU!!! Just be patient and I'm sure things will work themselves out!
2007-03-19 01:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by HALOGURL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Also get her prayed for, deliverance - people who had parents kill themselves tend to want to do that. You need a protection prayer to kill any thoughts in her head so it does not become a chain reaction. Maybe also, there was mental illness in the picture, it is inherited hopefully the child is not sick also. Get her prayed for quickly.
2007-03-19 08:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more help than we can give her here. She needs to see a professional and talk out her grief, because I'm sure this is partly about that. Get her some help.
2007-03-18 23:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋