I've known this guy friend for almost 3 years now and he hinted at he likes me every now and then, I was out of a long term relationship 1 year and a half ago and we started talking more at that time.
Last month he hinted at it again and I told him straight that I liked him then he backed off saying he likes me back but he's not ready for a relationship and sorry for that(he's out of a relationship 6 months ago), then I said ok we'd stay friends
now I still talk to him sometimes but he becomes very weird, sounds jealous and scornful all the time, the point is if you don't want to talk why the hell you im me? every time it's he says hi to me on messenger first, and asks me where I went what did I do, like he asked where did I go clubbing in the weekend I told him no I didn't go clubbing he'd say 'c'mon stop lying to me' and a lot 'a ha'..you know.. what does he want?!
If he's going to be like that should I just not talking to him awhile?
2007-03-18 23:24:34 · 16 answers · asked by jeannieC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him what you just told us. If he wants to continue to be friends, he needs to treat you better. Let him know that you don't appreciate the way he is acting and he needs to straighten up. If he wants to stay friends, he will. If this is a power thing for him, he'll leave and you can have some peace.
2007-03-18 23:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very important to read all of this--I don't know your ages, but this is immature, disrespectful behavior--and you allow it to continue. So get this guy and sit him down---take control of this whole conversation--and do not allow him to speak---tell him he must listen !! What you do or don't do and who you see or hang with is none of his business. The notes and questions are no lomger cute of funny, they are harrassing and almost stalking in the perceived threatening content. He can either talk nice, or stop being concerned with your life. If he has no further questions, allow him to go--no apology accepted--just GO. I suspect this immature boy feels scorned and it is overpowering him--he needs a shock to stop it. Now do NOT read or answer anything on the sites from him---Delete them--what could he say that is so important?? He is headed for a bad life of abusing females if he knows his actions go unstopped--so STOP them.
he has no idea how to initiate a relationship or even be in one--so that is how all this idiotic behavior starts and grows--IT IS DANGEROUS_--make it firmly known that you will not tolerate it. His type craves attention from silly childish actions---and the do not like strong, self confident women---so get a grip and do it.
2007-03-19 06:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds 2 me like you really like this guy,and i think in his own way he likes u too! BUT i also think he dont know what he want's but he dont want noone else to have u in the meantime. I think because u already made it clear u like him he feels he can treat u like this. Why dont u ignore him on messenger or the phone for a few weeks or just dont talk to him as much then u will find out if he really likes u. I suspect he does. If he says on msn why are u ignoring me.....just write sorry i'm talking to a few others too-he will probably ask who? but just say a couple of friends. Good luck.
2007-03-19 06:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really likes you more than he lets on..... & he was just telling you that to get some feedback by your actions.
By you going out with other guys & doing your own thing, you have given him the message that you really didn't give that much of a hoot about him..... if you did care, you would not be running around town with others.
I know that sounds kinda stupid... but maybe this fellow is insecure or uncomfortable in the dating circle. Maybe others have filled his head with the notion that everyone is "loose" or untrustworthy. With STD's & AIDS, etc., one can not be too careful about overprotecting themself. If you've known this person for over 3 years & he is trustworthy, & he has given you NO PRIOR reason to fear him. I see no reason why he should not be your 1st choice, over the "newer" friends who you barely know.
2007-03-19 06:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First he's too insecure to commit, so he runs from any possibility of a serious relationship as soon as you let him know you like him. Then he expects you to be there for him with your tongue sticken out as it were and when he doesn't see that, he again tries to push his limits by having the audacity to quiz you on where you've been and acting as though he had accepted a long term relationship. This is a confused guy and you sound too alert and wise to be trapped by his insecure, indirect and border-line abusive tactics. Come to think of it there no border-line about it... He's already emotionally abusive and acting like stalker of sorts... Isn't he???
2007-03-19 06:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Teri 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak. He don't want a relationship, but he wants you on the back burner until he's ready. And when he is ready, He won't take no for an answer and will be there trying to control your life even if you don't want him there. It sounds like the makings of an abusive relationship.
2007-03-19 08:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by jason t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy has real serious relationship issues. He wants you but he knows he has competitors. Although he knows you're available, he's afraid he'll crash & burn still. If you like him, you might wanna give that extra 'push'....like "I wanna go see a movie this Saturday but i've no one to come with me. Wanna join me?" or something like that. Remember, a guy's ego is his worst enemy. You must not make it so obvious. If you think he's worth it, then go for it. But if he's just annoying, there are always other guys out there....like me! Hehe.
2007-03-19 06:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by iszee01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor, gal. That guy is manipulating your feeling. Buat he does not realize that he is showing an unstable personality, such that he is not suitable for a permanent relationship!
To becoma a good husband? He is surely not the one!
Beware!
2007-03-19 07:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by amsops 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's gonna be like that then dont bother with him. he should respect you enough to have other guy friends, you do have your own lives. and its not like you two are married. next time he bothers you about questions like that tell him "You dont own me! I dont see no ring on this finger" lol then let him go through an awkward moment, then say you gotta go get some shut-eye roflmao.
2007-03-19 06:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Wilson J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he is very posesive but is trying not to show it but is if u get my drift. he doesnt want any one to have u but he doesn;t want you (relationship wise) he probably knows if u 2 got together it would be a relationshjip and maybe he is not ready, if the problem occurs talk to him about it.
2007-03-19 06:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋