What if he always asked you to describe your past lovers "parts" in detail, or always asked you if you need "other ones" if you know what I mean. I'm trying to be PG rated here. My guy always wants to know, its like he cant perform unless he is talking about me being with different men, "do you like black mens >>>> or white mens..... or mexican mens...... have they ever put it "here or there" do you know what I mean. I am rather offended by this. I can see fantasy occasionally, but its like he always has to picture me with other men, sometimes more than one. Hey, I like fantasy just as much as the next gal, but this seems strange and a little disrespectful. What do you think?
2007-03-18 22:44:14 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really like this guy and still want to continue a relationship with him, you can just tell him that you feel uncomfortable when you talk about those stuff. be open when it comes to sex
2007-03-18 23:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by jan-na~♥~ and im luvin it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, How old are you? how old is he? how long have you been together? and is it literally EVERY TIME? and is every time a lot or like once a month?
if it really bothers you sit and talk to him. Ask him why he likes it so much when you talk about other men in bed. and if he can perform and enjoy himself the same manner if you don't talk about other men.
Perhaps one night just using some dirty slang or dirty talk concerning him and you and you two alone in bed together. stuff hes done in the past perhaps.
see if that works. see trying doing it without words just noises and an occasional word here or there
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-18 22:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Advice giver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be more a voyeur or want you to dominate him making him feel lesser talk to him you might want to try the dominating thing maybe humiliate him a little like small things such as "you aren't anything like my previous lover he was a man you are a little boy" something like that. buy some over-sized boots and make him lick them and take them from you with only his teeth his fantasy seems to either be he has you now and all these others weren't good enough to keep you or the humility angle most masochists are like that and some sadists are as well talk to him find out if you can't handle his quirks it is better to find out now than later
2007-03-18 22:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His fantasy includes watching you with other men. He is interested in knowing about your past and the past is not any of his business. If you want to tell him about your past that is up to you. During sex he probably fantasizes about you with these other men this will help him get off quicker. The two of you should sit down and discusss this if it bothers you that much. Tell him you prefer he keep his fantasy in his head and not ask you about it.
2007-03-18 22:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes weird - if my boyf asked questions like that i'd be soooo embarassed and quite offended really, i'd never dream of asking him anything like that and I find it hard to deal with the fact hes had past 'lovers' - i just pretend in my own mind that when we both met eachother we were both virgins ;o)
2007-03-18 22:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's curious and unsure of himself. Needng a slight turn on it seems too. My ex GF was the same way, always asking about my past, with other women. hopefully it will fade with time, give him time and if it doesn't change dump him like I did her because enough is enough after awhile.
2007-03-18 23:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's obsessed with his package. Maybe he's a little insecure about his package and needs to compare it with others. I mean haven't we as girls wanted to know their past girlfriends, one night stands etc.. and find out if they were prettier or sexier or had bigger boobs or longer legs. Guys can be wierd about whats down there, they can be hell cut if thier packages didn't perform well, look at it as reassurance for themselves
2007-03-18 22:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that you feel disrespected. If he really loves you then he would understand. Start a different conversation while doing it.
2007-03-18 22:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Smile2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wanting to see you do 3 guys at one time.He is a perv.Dont complain about him tho, youre the one who volunteered to jump in bed before knowing this about him.
2007-03-18 22:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats very very stranger - next time you're doing it with him, ask him about his ex lovers, if he gets offeneded - he'll give the point , and if he njoys it then he's a sicko - dump him.
2007-03-18 22:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋