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Question

I'm living wit my husband's family, his parents and his little sis. She's 20 and her bf often comes over, he always takes my daughter away from my hands without saying anything to me not even say hi. I try to go stay in my bedroom but he still get in and take my 6 mons old away. Yes, I really want my own family but my husband wants to stay wit his family forever. He bought this mobile home, paid off his dad's car, pay for their car insurance, take them to shopping. They're still young, his dad 54 and his mom 46. When he wants to do something he's would afraid his family won't be happy, even his car, his dad have to says yes otherwise he won't get it. I'm willing to do anything for his family as long he agree to start our own family but he always rejects my offer. I;m trying my best bcause of him and my daughter, he told me he can[t live without her.
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Answer 1

By this time, you know what mistakes were made before, so you don't need me to tell you. About what's going on now-- Tell him that it's not working with having a multi-person marriage. The decisions he makes should include more you, as is his wife, and less parents. If he wanted to stay a child he shouldn't have gotten married. Marriage means going out on your own, making your own life, not staying at home, being cramped and crowded, and sleeping in the same bed as when you were 9. If you don't say something now, it's never going to stop. Since his daughter means so much to him, stress the point that it's not healthy or fair for her to grown up like this when she doesn't have to. By refusing to leave his parents' house, he's hurting his child.

Answer 2

You need to talk him into going to a marriage counselor. Tell him that you are very unhappy with things the way they are now. Don't continue to allow him to this. If necessary, you see a counselor. Evidently you are not being assertive enough about the situation. It is admirable that he loves his family, but you and the baby should be his first concern.