I got a text from my mum complaining that no one brought her a card or anything for mothersday. (she was very sarcastic and angry)
She told my sisters (late teens) that they weren't allowed to come round anymore and everytime they did she would go out. All they do is argue with her.
I have just had to apply for a remortgage and have had to sell my things so that I have food.
I sent her a message back saying sorry and explaining why I couldnt afford to get her anything, she hasnt replied. What should i do?
2007-03-18 22:15:26 · 15 answers · asked by MARIA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I told her i was planning on making it up to her when payday comes around at the end of the month and get her something then....cook her a meal and get some flowers.
My sisters told me they dont see why they should bother as she doesnt bother with them....I asked them to at least get her a card but they wouldnt..
They claim that she said they were never to come round her house again, they would normally visit her once a week. I assume this was after yet another argument where the youngest would shout at her you dont care about us ect...
2007-03-18 22:33:21 · update #1
I coulnt afford a card... I have sold all my DVD's and DVD player just to have enough food for the week. I've borrowed money off my dad and neighbour and am due to have bailifs round any day now to take the rest of my things. Im walking to work as I cant afford £1.70 for the bus and although I am using the internet now I am not paying for it as I was sent a letter saying that I have been cut off.
My phone has been cut off, My mobile has no credit, my partner has just enough petrol to get to work where he will have to borrow some more. I am working all the extra hours I can and as I said I am in the process of remortgaging to avoid having my house taken off me.
2007-03-18 22:40:25 · update #2
I was going to make her a card but was worried that if I did that she woudl think I was only sending it to her cos she complained.....Similar thing happened for her birthday, I brought her a card and present but she went away for har birthday and when she got back she sent a message along the lines of nice to know my 3 kids care so much about me.....I gave her the present anyway and she was still off with me even when i explained that i got them before she left and didnt get a chance to give them to her.
2007-03-18 22:51:54 · update #3
Isn't mothers day in May only? You left the ball in her court and its now up to her. Theres nothing more that you can do. A mothers love goes beyond a stupid card or gift. It sounds like she wants to have a distant relationship with you guys so dont feel bad that she isnt replying you.
2007-03-18 22:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mum who was ignored yesterday and felt very hurt by it; it's one day a year. A card costs very little. I have five kids, four grown up and left home, and I got one card.
how poor are you? how impossible was it for you to even get her a card? Could you have baked a cake or a pie or something? could you have made dinner for her?could you have visited?could you have acknowledged it in any way? texting has been the death of communication I think. The best way to sort this is face to face. Call in to see her. You will find the shops today full of cut price Mother's Day stuff, and even if you have no money, make that call.
I know how your mum feels.
2007-03-18 22:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bleedin' hell! Your having to sell your possessions and remortgage just to keep your head above water and your mother is moaning because you haven't bought her a mothers day gift! Obviously she hasn't got her priorities right! She should be the one offering to lend you a hand, she should also be the one giving you something! You don't have to make excuses! your a grown woman with your own life and from the sounds a whole lot of your own problems! You need to make sure you are getting by and that things don't get worse for you, not making sure your mum has a gift for mothers day!!! Hope you get all your finances sorted!
2007-03-22 07:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Chill_Out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have all at least have bought a card, no matter how skint you are. It's the thought that counts on a day like that and if there were no cards then your Mum probably thinks that none of you were thinking of her.......you may not want to hear this but you really should have given your Mother a card...and that's that. Unless you all really don't care about her in which case why are you asking this question here?
2007-03-18 22:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My advise to you would be to get in touch with the Shaftsbury Society, they are a free service helping people with debt and money problems. There is usually a local branch wherever you live in the Uk. They will help you sort out your finances and get back on track. perhaps your mum doesn't realise the extent of your problems.
2007-03-21 23:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by irisheyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww maria i feel for you.
But i also feel for your mum too, i understand that money is tight for you, but you could make this up to your mum, bake her a cake, tell her you didnt realise that it meant so much to her and that the reason you didnt buy her a card or pressie was because you love her all year through not just on mothers day.
i hope you get this sorted out, you only have the one mum, hugzz
2007-03-18 22:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by alaniss2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and worn that tee shirt but at least you are fighting the situation you are in, God loves a trier. I can understand your Mum being upset but if she is aware of your situation she could have been more understanding. Try not to be angry, get on with what you have to cope with at the moment and make it up to her another time.
2007-03-18 22:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What on earth are you spending all your money on?, both you and your partner are working, yet you can't afford £1.70 for the bus fare?.
Manage your finances like we all have to do.
Get over to your mum, give her a hug, tell her you love her, you dont have to spend any money, just say hi.
2007-03-19 07:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Milking maid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother and do not get offended if I don't get cards. A phone call is just as good. Your mother is being oversensitive to a holiday invented to make money. I don't need a card to know my kids care.
2007-03-18 22:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i can see why she was miffed as if none of her children got her anything she'll be upset surely you could have all got her 1 card and written all your names on if nothing else,having said that if you are having money trouble your mum should be understanding you can always make it up to her by making her something thats more sentimental than anything bought anyway
2007-03-18 22:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋