guy in work sending mixed signals?

Question

Hi ive liked a guy in work for a while but i always have had mixed signals from him as were both shy/quiet. My gut instinct had been he liked me as hes always been able to flirt with all the other girls of the office except for me and there were always signs there like him remembering stuff i told him, sharing family problems, being helpful in work. I thought he wouldve made a move at the xmas dos which he didnt. So i just backed off and didnt bother with him as much. I went to talk to him the other day which i hadnt done in ages and enquired bout a band he went to see and i asked what it was like general chit chat really. The next thing i know he emailed me a link from youtube of the band. He never emails me! Doesnt that show he may be interested

Answer 1

Maybe he jut likes that band...dont read too much into it till you know for sure or else you will just be waisting you time and emotion, be honest with him.

Answer 2

Depends. He may see you as a friend, or maybe your que's are right and he does like you, hence the non-flirtations. Of course, if he's shy, he may be looking for signals coming from you, and not finding any because you are alot like him. That is why he is flirting with the other girls at work, because they are flirting with him. If you flirted with him a bit, possibly he would flirt back. I happen to be shy, and sometimes the girls I like I ignore because I feel less confident around them. Stupid huh. Yet the girls I think of as friends, get the wrong impression and assume my friendliness is flirtation. I'm not flirtatious by nature, I don't play that game, and never have. I've never quite found the perfect way to let someone know I'm interested in a non awkward way. I guess its always going to be a little awkward, because it requires putting myself out on the line for possible rejection. And maye that's not such a bad thing.

Answer 3

Those aren't mixed signals. That's just how guys act. He's probably trying to work up the guts to ask you out. Give him a little time.

Answer 4

If he doesnt flirt with you and remembers stuff that happened to you doesnt it maybe mean that he just likes you as a friend.

Sorry its just that he hasnt made a move on you when he has had a chance and he never came and found you when you stopped talking to him.

Just keep him as a friend and dont ruin it and make an atmosphere at work by making a move

Answer 5

There is no such thing as shy. Men if they want something they go get it or they stay as close to it as possible so they wont lose it. I say in todays world you cannot wait on a man for your own sanity. You can ask him out not on a date but out to eat or something but get him away from work and you will have your answer without being embarrased if he just wants to be friends. If he seems eager when you ask him you are off to a good start. If he is a little reluctant or comes up with reasons that are not good enough reasons to want to do than spend time with you, let him go you got your answer. good luck

Answer 6

OOPS--bad move--a co-worker relationship--your next question will be should you quit after the break-up?? Resist the guy and find someone outside of work--this office romeo is not for you---he may not e-mail because he doesn't like you and you are dreaming--snap out of it---get a grip---go out and have some fun.

Answer 7

No. If he was interested, he would have made a move at the Christmas Party.

Time to move on. He is just a friend. His is taking too long. Life is short.

Answer 8

You should go out of the ordinary and confront him about it. He seems pretty aloof to me and if nobody takes that first step then you are always going to wonder what if? Do something!

Answer 9

Just a suggestion, don't mix business with pleasure.

Answer 10

seems like he likes you and you like him, but all this dithering around it will be xmas again before you have your first snog...ask him out, let him know who's boss....x