I confessed to my friend that I had a major crush on her brother. She accepted it, even though she was a little upset about it in the beginning. The truth is that after spending some time with him, I realize that he's not all that I thought he was. Anyway, I have got him interested in me, but he knows that I'm not crazy about him. He's a great guy and I just want to be friends with him for as long as I can.
But his sister believes that I'm still onto him. How can I make her understand that he was just a crush and that I prefer to keep flirting rather than have a real relationship with him? She's not that close to her brother, but she still loves him a lot. Sometimes she even jokes that she doesn't mind having me as her sister-in-law! However, I do sense a feeling of insecurity in her when her brother is around.
I love them both. But, how can I turn back time? I just want things to be the way it was before I confessed!
She's 23, I'll be 23 soon, and he is almost 25.
2007-03-18 20:45:41 · 4 answers · asked by Latina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to sit down and take about it, 'cos she's not that type. It'll only make things more obvious, I think.
2007-03-18 20:47:00 · update #1
It all out now. that's best
Move forward. If it is love then wonderful.
If it isn't then don't be compelled to spill your heart out to your friend or even talk to her at all about it. Never speak an ill word about the bro, just let it all go.
Keep them separate... go do with her and have fun and leave
"HIM" out of the conversations and visa versa.
2007-03-18 20:50:09 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with her and explain that you were mistaken about your crush and that you thought you felt something that you did not. Its a girls prerogative to change her mind and she is your friend so tell her you do did want to jeopardize your friendship by being involved with her brother so the best thing to do is just be friends with them both and not upset anyone on the process.
2007-03-19 03:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by CAW1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just let time heal everything. Back off her brother a little bit, and maybe try not to talk about him that much in front of her.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 03:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if she's your friend she'll understand the situation.. just talk to her about it cause i think that if you dont do it now she may think that your relation with her brother is really serious and she might not take it well
2007-03-19 03:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋