i asked this question before but didn't get good answers. so im asking it again.
i used to love dis girl secretly. for some reasons i had to hook her up with my best mate. because she was a friend and she told me she liked my best mate. i thought i could handle the consequences of it. but I'm absolutely rubbish at handling situations. i ended up losing friendship with both of 'em. i went through a terrible time. but i think i have got over her. now..i want to get back the friendship i once had. tomorrow's her birthday. i told her to have lunch with me tomorrow. she agreed because she wants to b friend with me as well. she is going to bring her boyfriend( was my best mate). now my question is.how m i going to act in front her? what do i talk about? and what do i buy for her? please help.....
2007-03-18 20:42:08 · 13 answers · asked by fade_as_snowflake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry pal....from what I can see...you are screwed !!..and the
only way I do see you coming out clean and having them
both as friends again.......
is by 1st..becoming friends again with your best mate, then
via him get back your friendship again with the girl.....
if you get back friendship with best mate ..you are good to
go..and will be able to mend friendship with both.
however...you are never gonna have her as your friend or
as the kind of friendhip that you had with her before you
played cupido on them both, because she will always bring
her boyfriend along, or boyfriend will always want to be
around when you 2 meet
2007-03-18 20:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well this is quite a hard question, what did you used to talk about? Talk about that, tell her what you did last weekend, ask her what she did. But DO NOT ignore you ex best mate, be nice to both of them. As a present I would get her something that reminds her of the friendship you two used to have. Like if you went to a concert together, something that reminds of it.
I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
2007-03-18 20:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. Let me try. First thing first. Get her a present nothing personal. Something any girls her age would like. If she's got long hair, perhaps a hairpin would be ideal. You don't want to give her something too expensive that even her boyfriend can't afford. He will feel inferior. Next, choose a venue that is not too quiet, i.e. romatic settings. You will be paying big bucks and they may get the wrong impression. Last but not least, first is to apologise for the wrongs you've done (my guess). Let them know that their friendships mean alot to you. Hope that they would put the past behind and wish them a successful relationship.
2007-03-18 20:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if you really just want the friendship back just be you, and act the way you used to, they both were obviously friends with you because they liked you. Although it will be tough theres good putting on an act, as for what to buy her i would just get her a card for now explaining how you just miss her friendship. I honestly think she wouldnt expect anything and may be awkward for her to recieve something from you at this point. Shout her lunch
anyway goodluck
2007-03-18 20:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by mel_leno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's bringing her boyfriend, so she doesn't want to be alone with you. Try to use this as a chance to get back the friendship you had before, by letting them know it was just a passing thing that's over. Your friend will have a hard time trusting you. Show him that you're trustworthy.
2007-03-18 20:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem?? DO YOU WANT HER BACK!!!! Then do everything possible to get her back. Act matured and not kiddish.
During lunch, talk to them about everything except your feelings for her. Speak topics on school, career and the future. Let her build some respect for you during the lunch. Next time, when you can get her alone, ask her if you can date her alone...
Buy for her anything that you can afford. Don't impress her with costly gifts...
2007-03-18 20:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act friendly n calm. Don't get excited. Just have simple friends talk. Say Hi to both of them. Ask wats going in there life(not love one just casual one). U can Buy flowers(but not red roses). U was her friend so U would have known her likes n dislikes so U can go to buy gifts acc to that.
2007-03-18 21:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her you acted like an *ss, you're sorry and you over it, and say you wish them well, but you gotta mean it, if you dont dont bother trying with the friendship, but some buds you guys must have been to loose a friendship over a girl, buy something small but meaningful, dont go out of your way, she'll see you trying too hard
2007-03-18 20:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by king of spain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 09:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD BEHAVE IN ANY AMUZING MANNER JUST TREAT THEM AS YOU DID EARLIER WHEN EVERYTHING WAS ALLRIGHT TRY TO GET THEM COMFORTABLE WITH YOU AS THE GIRL HAS TRUSTE TO YOU AND GETTING YOUR BEST MATE WITH HER BECAUSE SHE KNOWS THAT YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND SO TRY TO BE AS A FREIND NOT A LOVER AS YOU YOURSELF GAVE THE CHANCE FOR YOUR FRIENDS AND YOU SHOULD TRY TO GET HER A NICE GIFT LIKE SOME BEAUTIFUL EARRINGS
2007-03-19 00:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋