I confessed to my friend that I had a major crush on her brother. She accepted it, even though she was a little upset about it in the beginning. The truth is that after spending some time with him, I realize that he's not all that I thought he was. Anyway, I have got him interested in me, but he knows that I'm not crazy about him. He's a great guy and I just want to be friends with him for as long as I can.
But his sister believes that I'm still onto him. How can I make her understand that he was just a crush and that I prefer to keep flirting rather than have a real relationship with him? She's not that close to her brother, but she still loves him a lot. Sometimes she even jokes that she doesn't mind having me as her sister-in-law! However, I do sense a feeling of insecurity in her when her brother is around.
I love them both. But, how can I turn back time? I just want things to be the way it was before I confessed!
She's 23, I'll be 23 soon, and he is almost 25.
2007-03-18 20:34:23 · 6 answers · asked by Latina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to sit down and take about it, 'cos she's not that type. It'll only make things more obvious, I think.
2007-03-18 20:38:26 · update #1
Well then what u should do is when they are both around u, make it clear that you are friends with both of them. Tell them how great it feels to be "their" friend. Add little comments like that and don't feel so pressured into feeling bad about confessing your feelings. I have a brother and if my friend wanted to date him, being a sister we do tend to get on the defensive side. Only for the fact that we want only the best for our siblings. Not saying your not the best choice, it just happens like that. So just be yourself and hopefully the sister will let her insecurities go when she feels there is not a reason to be insecure.
2007-03-18 20:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by N8ivehunee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you didn't "lead him on" in the beginning and promised him more than you are able to provide him now, emotionally. If, in fact, you did make him to believe in something that you are not able to give him now, then you do owe him an apology (from an ethical point of view).
We can't have a control over the future of our feelings. Today, we might think that we truly love a person; tomorrow, we might have different feelings towards him or her. However, in all the cases, if you initially promised him more than you are able to give now, then you do need to be honest about it in front of that person and you do need to apologize. Good Luck.
2007-03-19 03:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, find a boyfriend. If you really don't want a realationship with him, get into one with someone else, or at least start looking. Sooner or later your friend will see that is really was just a crush and things won't always have to be so awkward between you.
2007-03-19 03:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by wpstmac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to sit down and talk to her, but you do need to tell her you just don't feel the same as you did anymore.
2007-03-19 03:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy....just tell him and her that you now have a boyfriend..
and they'll both back away.
2007-03-19 03:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Roberto D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like your a slut to me
2007-03-19 03:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋