I recently said:
I got with my ex while I was getting close to another guy. The guy said he's not mad because he didn't have a 'claim' on me but it changed things. He said he likes still likes me but things are different. He doesn't say the same sweet things...he says he's not sure about how he feels but still maintains that he can picture us together. He says he needs time to figure things out.
How would you feel? How bad did I mess up? Should I feel so mad/sad at what I did?Do we stand a chance? Should I give up? Anthing else you want to tell me.... (By the way...I let go of the ex right after the incident...does that change things?)
UPDATE:
I should also add that this happened a couple of weeks ago. My relationship with my ex lasted 3 years. I became friends with the other guy when my ex and I broke up in September but we got back together. When we finally ended it in December, I began getting closer with the other guy. We admitted we liked each other in February.
2007-03-18 20:03:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree I may have moved on too fast. I really like this other guy..and I want a chance with him. I know in my heart it's over with my ex.
2007-03-18 20:07:00 · update #1
Also the other guy lives in another state. Is there a chance?
2007-03-18 20:09:16 · update #2
the new guy is the one who lives in another state..thought about driving but it's a 10hr drive
2007-03-18 20:19:14 · update #3
I said it before---this is not a drama or some pity thing here--it is real life--and you better get to the truth on what YOU want--these choices are yours--not anyone elses. You can't mess with emotions of others---you better work on being a woman--and make a decision and stick with it. If you can't make up your mind with these two---better start over and stick to Mister New Man--don't play these games. It is never one person at fault--I can see what you are probably responsible for with the ex---got involved when you weren't ready---fell for the smooth words---of course those words aren't there anymore--you are not the same woman anymore. Get a grip and straighten yourself out---it is ALL up to you !!
2007-03-18 20:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that he will never trust you again, and things changed right? well he isn't the same after being cheated on even tho he says he didn't have a claim on you that's what the guy is telling you by changing the way things were. You blew it move on
2007-03-18 20:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to figure things out. I don't give it much hope but you really have no choice.
About the guy who lives in a different State, time will tell.
2007-03-18 20:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it makes me wonder if you really know where you stand. Like you're on a shaky ground. If you are really done with your ex, then you are and should move on with or without the other guy. n
2007-03-18 20:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should understand that it is very hard to let go of a long relationship. If he really cares about you, he will forgive you. Just remember that he is going to be afraid that you will do this again. Take time to reassure him that it will never happen again.
2007-03-18 20:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOOK just rest in the LORD trust GOD to work it out. DONT move fast. LET him make the moves here.
2007-03-18 20:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you messed up. If he likes you, he'll come around. Don't push him. Let him come to you.
2007-03-18 20:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by dave 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
uR ZODIAC SIGNS MUST MATCH, IF THEY DONT U R IN TROUBLE, U HAVE NOWHERE TO GO , YES
2007-03-18 20:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by viren k 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋