I have what I would call a controling mother. I am 22 yrs old and I have a 6 month old child. My mother doesn't approve of my new boyfriend who I have been dating for 2 months claiming that I spend to much time with him. I live at my mothers house b/c I work part time and I have a car payment. My mom picks fights with my bf and he never says anything out of the way to her. Now she has started this "oh well he gave me a look" crap. I am so tired of it and want to get my own place, but I'm scared I can't afford it. I can't keep living this way though. While I'm at work (3rd shift) she watches the baby. If she wakes up crying my mother calls me and makes me listen to it. It breaks my heart all she wants is a bottle but my mother doesn't care. She believes she should be sleeping through the night. Now she is threatening to not let my bf come over anymore (trying to punish me). Should I move out? How do I do it tastefully without it being a huge fight?? How can I afford to move out???
2007-03-18 20:00:17 · 4 answers · asked by specklesanne_13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
again I'm 22 yrs old.
I live in her house.
I have a 6month old.
I have a bf who I really care about and have been dating for 2 months.
I work partime about $550 to $600 a month but I have a car payment and ins. Mom thinks she can tell me how to raise my kid and how and who to date, and how much time we spend together.
2007-03-18 20:03:45 · update #1
Your choices are to move out or stay there. The danger here is that you could end up marrying some guy just to escape when he really isnt right for you.
My worry though is your child needs care when your not there and it sounds like your mother is torturing your baby by not giving her what she needs.You might need to get a full time job and put your baby in day care.
2007-03-18 20:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a person who is concern. I always believe that if you can't stand the fire get out of the kitchen. Maybe its time for you to be responsible on your own, because as long as you live under someone else roof you must listen to what they have to say about whatever. Just remember your mother have a lot of experiences in areas that you don't but if you want to have your own then go get it. Face you fears just remember you live with your decisions, having help with such a small child can be very good and mothers are who they are you don't have to respond just listen, you don't even have to agree but always respect them. It might be wise to ask question maybe there is a reason why she don't like your boyfriend. Just reading that you only been dating him for 2 months could be to early for you to see signs that your mother already know about. Being in your 20's we can be blind to misgiven information from relationship. Another thing after having a baby and the father is not around our parents believe that we don't know what to look for in a man and for the most part your experiences has shown her that you don't and this is ok, open up and allow your mother to help, stop being closeminded she loves you and want the best for you.
2007-03-21 17:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by jusmslove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't understand how you can be dating someone when you have such a young baby at home. She was only four months old when you started to see him. Seems to me that you don't have your priorities start. You should have a full time job so your daughter can have all that she needs. This is just my opinion but your mom is being terrible because you are not acting like an adult. She shouldn't have to watch your child or have you both in her house at your age. Your guy is just an irritation to her because if he wasn't in your life you might be doing more to help yourself. Is he just working part time too? You need to grow up dear. No one said it will be easy but you are a mom now and you owe it to your daughter to be the best that you can be. You are too old to blame everything on your mom.
2007-03-19 03:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move out of your mother's house and find a new babysitter/daycare. The top priority in your life right now needs to be the well-being of your baby. That includes making enough money to support the 2 of you. Working part-time is not going to cut it. Dating and going out come later on the list of priorities. While you are living in your mother's house, she has every right to tell you who is and isn't allowed in her home. Time to move on and become self supporting.
2007-03-19 09:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ruby Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋