The guy I'm seeing has just told me he's seeing another woman, who he's living with. He had first told me that she was his ex and moving out and I believed him!
He keeps telling me he loves me and wants to be with me, because since he told me a few days ago, I have been contemplating leaving him. He promises me he's going to leave her, and that he's just waiting cause he got laid off for awhile, and wants to catch up on back bills. Each time I say something, though, it seems like another excuse.
She has a child with him, and I am NOT the first person he has been with besides her, he confessed it all to me. I don't know what to do, I have half a mind to show up at her door and tell her everything about him, but I do love him.
HELP!
2007-03-18 19:49:43 · 14 answers · asked by pomme_de_sangstl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's play the devil's advocate here:
Pretend he leaves his girlfriend and child for you, now what? You're the grand prize winner of a total jerk. Do you really want to be associated with a man who cheats on his girlfriend and dumps her, even though they have a child together? If he doesn't love her any longer, he needs to move out.
Also, let's pretend he IS only staying with her until he catches up on bills. How is he doing this, he has no income? Oh, that's right, he's using her for money. This guy sounds like a real winner. Why, on God's green earth, would you even possibly associate with someone like this? Anyone deserves better. :)
2007-03-18 19:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tweiz, This creep is not going to leave his first girlfriend and is playing you for a sucker.He will keep playing you until you tell him to get out and not come back. Sweetie you are the other woman. Find a nice single guy who will take you out and have some fun for a change. You deserve a lot better than you have and are getting. Be smart move on. A Friend.
P.S. Once a cheat always a cheat...Remember this!!!
Clowmy
2007-03-18 20:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, and this hurts, but think about it...do you really think you can have a life with him knowing what you know now? I imagine that even if he does eventually leave her (realize now that if he is staying to get on his feet he is using her and that sucks too), you may constantly be worried that he will do the same thing to you. He already confessed to being with other girls while with her.
I think in your heart you know what you should do. Don't you really think you deserve more than this. If a man really really wants to be with you, he will make things work somehow. He just doesn't seem to be putting in the effort.
2007-03-18 19:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to clarify it to him, like making him say WHEN exactly he plans to leave her, what does he have to resolve first? If he doesn't answer clearly and reasonably, sorry, but he is not leaving her. This happens all the time, just be firm in your position, or you will be the other woman... for an undetermined period of time
2007-03-18 19:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey , I don't mean to sound rude or offensive but DON'T FALL FOR IT!!! You are above and beyond,TRUST!! Don't sell yourself short , if it's meant to be and he REALLY loves you, he will leave her and find you and if he's lucky you'll still be available in the mean time love yourself until the right one comes along!! I know it's easier said then done, but give it a try!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-03-18 19:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by sugarscorp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he won't leave and they have a child together -- so it is an invested relationship. He is just playing you on the side. Never get involved with a married or dating man -- it usually spells trouble.
2007-03-18 19:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yea is lying. He wants to have his cake and eat it too! Don't let him have the satisfaction! It would be in your best interest to leave him, and avoid any drama, and lies because the longer you're with him, the worse it's going to get. Don't do that to yourself! Good Luck, I hope it works out!
2007-03-18 19:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you still can. Don get involved. A cheater is always a cheater. He'll never change. Let him go, free yourself and live your own life. U deserve better. All te best.
2007-03-18 20:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words. (That's for him).
Brad pitt & Angelina Jolie, dose those names ring any bills for you?
I really thought that Angelina was a real B i t c h when she took a married man from his wife.
How can you be happy with him if you know that you're happiness will be on top of other humanbeeing misoury?
2007-03-18 20:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by lestate_undead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love someone who is blatantly using you. youre playing the fool. If he was going to leave her he would have done it by now. For god sakes lady he has a child with her.
2007-03-18 20:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋