It has been 10 weeks since my ex-gf broke up and I am still hurt?

Question

I has been 10 weeks since my ex-gf broke it off with me for some other guy. I was extremely hurt in the process because it not even 24 hours later she kissed another guy and has been with ever since. She knows I am a nice guy but she said she loved me as a brother and not as a bf. But I was with her for 3 years! I mean we did everything, had a sexual relationship and all, but I think she wanted more? She says she is more physically attracted to this other guy, but she still loves me as a friend. How can someone move on so fast? She knew this guy for 3 weeks max.
Now I have been going cold turkey because it is the only way to get over her propery.
Or that is what people have told me. I find it hard to accept because she has been trying to call me and be friends!
It is too soon and now she thinks I am trying to hurt her. But really I am not.
I mean 2 weeks after we broke up I saw his toothbrush sitting in the exact spot where my toothbrush was sittting.
What must I do?/????

Answer 1

Don't worry about it. Cut the ties. And don't let certain girls tell you how to be a man. I just saw Borat (lol) and I hate to give advice from drunken frat boys... but yeah, "don't let a girl... don't let a girl.... don't let a girl make you.. who you are".

lol, cut her off, the let's be friends thing doesn't work, or else you'll be listening to her ramble on about him for hours and you'll end up driving her to the abortion clinic. Not good for your psyche. Call some of your dudes and go out for a tiny bit of partying, whatever else you like to do. Focus on the positive things and people in your life. And just realize that it takes a little time.

Also realize that's the type of girl that will wait a little while and then want you back like crazy. In that situation, I always just say MEH, but, whatever.

Answer 2

Hi, first I wanna say, i feel so sorry about this. I think you are in the same situation like me did 6 months ago. sure you can't forget it so fast, but in fact, you need forget it,I mean even she maybe go back someday, as you told that you have not done anything wrong, she just tired of this relationship between you two, you can't accept it anymore, Try to go and find a new one, even just a temporary one. Night club's a good place, and you should try to find some way to get out of this mood, you will make it. just need a little longer, Don't do anything you regret, you know what i am talking about., don't!
Let her go, though you miss her so much, you can't be together like before, trust me, try to find a new one, ok? Just go now!

Answer 3

You need to stay away from her. She said that she loved you like a brother. After she was with you for 3 years. No she is wrong. You loved her and if she loved you then she would not be doing this to you. Take some time to get your life back into order. Then see how you fell about it I thank you will see that you are better off and then find someone who loves you for who you are and would do anything not to hurt you. I now it is hard and right now you thank nobody understands because they don't now how in love you was and how happy you two was.God it felt good uh? She needs to give you time tell her if she loves you at all don't contact you when you are ready you will contact her. good luck With time you will fell better I now .

Answer 4

wow, this must have been a very difficult thing for you to go through...
well, to me it seems that u have the right to feel the way you are feeling, bcoz u loved and trusted this person and she let u down....it IS hard to be friends with someone u love, so i do not disagree with the cold turkey idea....the thing is, i feel that she is playing a game with u...she does not want to lose u completely bcoz she probably has some weird reasons. maybe having u by her side means that she can have anyone she wants whenever she wants.
did she tell u she thinks u r trying to hurt her? i think she should take one good look at herself bcoz she betrayed u...is she turning it around and trying to make u feel guilty instead? this is another game!
dude, i know this is very hard and hurtful, but the quesiton is, do u really need someone like her in ur life? she seems immature and she lacks integrity...
i do not know u, but i am sure u deserve someone better than that!
good luck with whatever decision u make! :)

Answer 5

number one, you can't be friends with her. Get the hell away from her. You have to come to grips with the fact that she never loved you the way you did her. like most women, she is a stupid *****. Don't call her, don't go to places she hangs out, get a new circle of friends if you have to but get her out of your life. Anything less will just prolong your agony. I was in your shoes 20 years ago. sometimes I still think about her even though that was a lifetime ago, so I suppose you may never completely get over it. But get on with your new life regardless. She made her choice, it wasn't you.
Another piece of advice: if thingsdon't work out with her new boyfriend and she comes banging on your door, don't answer it. don't take her back. I was a sap and did that three times. What happened? it was never long after i took her back when she'd find a new guy and leave me devasted again. I fell for it everytime. don't you do it.
start dating new people. try and forget about her. think of her as dead.

that's my advice.

Answer 6

talk about being INSENSITIVE! She obviously didn't consider your feelings when she hooked up with the new guy and now she's making you feel guilty for not making an effort to stay friends?? If your healing process involves you going cold turkey to get her out of your system , then keep doing so. Maybe in time, when you're not as hurt, you can be friends then, but for now, tell her you've gotta deal with it in your own way.

Answer 7

She screwed up she knows it and if she can keep you as a friend it rids her of any guilt. Women hate to feel guilt when they did wrong and will NEVER addmit to any wrongdoing. As well, if her present relationship goes sour she has you to fall back on to pick her up and make her feel powerful again. The more you love someone the harder it is to recover. Find another better than the other. Don`t be a fool and play her game. She will hurt you time and time again. Good luck.

Answer 8

I'll give you the harsh truth..it may help u recover quicker..you not the tiger in bed for her.. you are like mother goose who she can turn to when she needs a shoulder to cry on.
firstly its just that the girl had you all along until she found some one 'better'' (according to her, not that actually he is better). the girl just wants her cake and eat it too. she wants the guy who she is attracted to as well as a guy like you in her life to turn to when she needs emotional support.
now its up to you whether you are comfortable being just her friend.since you guys were close.. I'm sure you can talk to her and tell her being dropped from a bf to a friend is like being dropped from a king to a soldier and that if she wants to be just friends it will take time. it cant just cant happen immediately. what does she thinks she is...she doesn't care about your perspective at all. just lay off her totally for a while for happiness sake !

Answer 9

really hurting isn't it.actually i donot know how to passify you.never be friends with her again she can't have everything and not at your expense,some girls are like that, stone hearted,but one good thing about this is,what if she had to do it after marriage,would have been more humiliating and painful.so as not to have any regrets,call her once alone for a serious talk, tell her you love her and want her back and give her sometime to think,and if she still doesn't want you,just walk away.she will get her dose of medicine someday and then she'll regret leaving a wonderful man like you.do you belive in god ?

Answer 10

Put all items belonging to the gf and Just throw them AWAY. It will help in the healing process. Give it more time. 10 weeks in nothing compared to my experience (of 15 years) which I had to go through. Hope this can help you get going.