I got with my ex while I was getting close to another guy. The guy said he's not mad because he didn't have a 'claim' on me but it changed things. He said he likes still likes me but things are different. He doesn't say the same sweet things...he says he's not sure about how he feels but still maintains that he can picture us together. He says he needs time to figure things out.
How would you feel? How bad did I mess up? Should I feel so mad/sad at what I did?Do we stand a chance? Should I give up? Anthing else you want to tell me.... (By the way...I let go of the ex right after the incident...does that change things?)
2007-03-18 19:31:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if you still love your ex. Yuo should just get back to him instead of going with the new guy. You also have to whiegh wich one of them care and love you more. If the new guy really loves you.He will forgive you and will continue to care for you no matter what you did. Remember to Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding .In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path. I am married now .My husband is wonderful.I believe that God gave him to me. you can always count on God to provide you what you need. Whiether Guidance,or money, or love or any thing. the solutions to your problems are just prayers away. Just trust in God and you will know what to do. God cares for you more than you can think or immagine.He is just waiting for you to call.So pray and I'll pray for you too. Sincerely,
Arcelie
2007-03-18 19:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by arcelielopes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going on in his mind right now is why you went astray. He was probably very into you and thought you were just as into him. Now he is questioning whether you were into him at all and whether he should trust you.
The first and most important thing you should do is assess how into him you are. From my perspective, you really don't care about him that much. Bottom line - if you cared - you would not have messed around with your ex. Especially if the relationship between you and this guy was new. Based on this, I would leave the situation.
However, if you want to work things out (I mean REALLY want to), you must give him time and as much space as he needs. There are no words you can tell him that will make things "normal" again. The only way you can convince him of your new dedication to him is through actions. After all, it was through your actions that you made him feel like you were not interested in him. Make sure that everything you do in regards to him is pure and from your heart. Only then will he believe you and he are in the relationship together.
2007-03-19 02:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem you have is you did the right thing by giving up the ex but I am afraid your big issue is the guy you really like doesn't know, if going forward, he can trust you......Can you see what he means? Its really important that you see where he is coming from. See, you can tell him you will never do that again but hey...your actions is what he is thinking about. So here is what I think you should do. Tell him you know he said he didn't have a claim on you but that you still want to have a romantic relationship with him and that you promise you won't step out on him again. But tell him you understand why he might be suspicious and not believe you right now. Then tell him that you would like to be friends with him for awhile so that maybe he can build up some trust in you and tell him that when he is ready that he can let you know when he would like to rekindle the romantic relationship. In other words since you need to build up some trust then let him steer the ship and make his move when he feels comfortable enough with you to do so....make sense?
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 02:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new guy is using rhetoric---silly words to say goodbye, lady---trying to get rid of you without a scene-probably sees you for the person you really are.---you are going back to the ex??? Well, it is your choice---why are you two apart anyway??? Will it all happen again??? You better regroup and give your future a real big thought,here.....sounds like you have issues about what it is exactly what you want in life. Feeling mad or sad???TOUGH !! You have more problems than those thoughts--you better get a grip and smarten up or you will be a lonely lady-you can't play with people's emotions this way.--good luck
2007-03-19 02:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough to say. Hes probably just worried that your gonna be running back to your ex all the time. You just need to talk things out with him and assure him that your ex is a thing of the past. If he's serious about how he feels about you, he'll give you another chance. He probably is just taking time... to see what your gonna do. Seeing if during this "thinking" time if you do it again. I understand... it was damn near impossible to not be with my ex one last time after it was all over, regardless of who your currently seeing or how great they are or how much of an *** your ex was. I think we've all been there.
2007-03-19 02:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by juli_jugz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's best that you just hang with yourself for a bit. Don't jump from one relationship to another without taking a pause and reflecting on what went wrong. Too many times after a relationship ends, we tend to place all the blame on the other without contemplating what we could have done to sabotage the relationship. If you don't figure these things out, you're doomed to make the same mistakes again. :)
2007-03-19 02:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry girl but you sound so confused. I bet your feelings for your boyfriend werent very strong which explains why you were getting close to the other guy. I can understand if you lose both these guys because you are making them both insecure about you. Sorry but you need time out from both, sort out your feelings then tell one of them that you want a second chance. This isnt hard if you have a clear mind, sort out yourself it is fair for them both this way.
2007-03-19 02:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you had to go back one more time just to be sure. Let him know that you did not want to continue seeing him, until you were sure that your relationship with you ex was definitely over. Tell him that you are sure of how you feel now, and would like to start dating him, if he is still interested.
2007-03-19 02:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, don't punish yourself into a panic, second , do what he said , give him a little time to figure things out. if he really wants you , he will get back with you . some things take time.if he does not come back to you in a couple of days , well it's time to start looking elsewhere. don't waste your time on something that's not win able. best of luck to you .
2007-03-19 02:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmh.. pretty serious. you shdnt have gone to ur ex wen yu had a new guy.
i bet he is thinking if you wouldnt do it again. no man likes to share his lady. you have to exercise patience and give him time and you really have to prove to him that yu wouldnt do it again. i bet you he is really sad about it.
let him know it was a mistake. beg him and make him realise yu wouldnt do it again. best of luck gal and please do kip to d promise.
2007-03-19 02:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by aminnylabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋