Running out of things to say... after 1.5 years?

Question

hey..

I am scared and worried.. last night.. all of a sudden my g/f/fiance.. stopped talking and said she don't know what to say and ran out of thinks to say... and i didn't feel the same way one bit and i was looking forward to talking to her... everything was fine sat and friday and on friday we talked on the phone for almost an hour few times and it was pefect.. friday night, she wasn't talking much because she was tired and i let her go.. but sat, i was loooking forward to talking to her and heart dieing to talk to her and all she was all quiet and everything, and then i asked her and she's like "i don't know what to say.." and that she's going to get going.. i was like we talked perfectly on friday.. and she's like i guess we talked about it everything then.. so I AM WORRIED LIKE CRAZY! I love her very much and i don't know why she felt that way!! I don't know if she was mad at me or not.. or anything at all..

because when she's mad or something, she does that.. and just doesn't talk and only responds to my questions like i am forcing her to talk.. it just breaks my heart when she does that.. and i asked her if she's mad at me or not, and she said she isn't, but she says that every single time.. i don't know what to do.. this never happened, and it's 1.5 years in to the relationship.. i want to make it up to and i said sorry billlion times, and i just want things back to normal.. because i love her very much..

she's my fiancee, but we aren't offically enganged yet.

If i just let her come to me, would things get worse if there was just silence? i mean she still says that when she doesn't see for a week or so, her feelings start to drift... even after year and half..

Answer 1

Okay, first off: She is either your girlfriend or fiancee. Which is it? State things definitively. Rarely does standing in a grey area lead to success.

Second: So she doesn't feel like talking. Give her a little bit of space. Let her WANT to talk to you. Maybe she feels like she's not being listened to, so if you wait for her to talk, those feelings will subside. You sound like a very aggressive person in conversation, kick down on the intensity a little bit. Maybe she feels intimidated by your control of communication.

Don't ask her to talk because she won't, allow her some space and she'll come talk to you when she has something she wants to say.

Answer 2

I talk for 7.5 hours a day to all kinds of ppl. But when I get around the guy I like...I can't think of anything and feel so jealous of other people who talk to him so freely. My suggestion is read and tell her about what you learned. Watch the news and discuss it. Tell her what other ppl said today. Tell he what you saw on the way to work. Tell her interesting things you find on the internet...or jokes you hear on tv...there's always something to share...have you cover her third grade Valentine's Day yet...

Answer 3

Do stuff together, and give eachother space so you can tell eachother about your day.

Ask her tons of questions.

Maybe she was feeling self consious for some reason, maybe she really didn't have anything to say- as time goes by the silence gets comfy, unless there's an air to it....

Answer 4

she'll come around. i speak to my bf on the phone n sometimes run out of stuff to say. i will either say i gtg not to drag it out. or just make up a convo starter.

maybe she's in a bad mood and needs some alone time.

just give her time, she'll come around.