did the first time you have sex not go to well?

Question

For the first time tonight me and my boyfrined had sex and he relly coundent get it in there he only did like for 1 sec. he sade i was so tight that he even hurts and he didnt feel a thing. i just dont get it. plese help me!

Answer 1

Sounds like your boyfriend had a problem. That sucks.

My first time was great. A girl a few years older climbed on top of me on my friends deck on the beach. She knew exactly what she was doing. I was so fortunate. Woke me the following day after she showered, changed, put on make up and rolled a joint. We did it every day for a week. Only really took breaks to buy food/grass & party. Then I flew home, should have driven to Tiffany's and bought a ring on credit what an awesome girl.

You should try having your b/f relieve himself every day for a few days before you do it next. I don't know how much foreplay was involved but have him finger you for a bit before you actually do it. Also use a lubricant first next time.

Just don't make a big deal out of this time, be relaxed, be safe & have fun with it. Allow yourself to enjoy it, tell your boy friend what you want (faster/slower/anything). You should also cuddle afterwards, because that is the best part.

Hope that helps.

Answer 2

You might have a really tight hymen that makes it difficult for penetration the first time. Both you and your boyfriend need to relax and take it slow, very slow until penetration is achieved. You might try using a lubricant (k-y jelly at the drugstore), and lubricate that condom. It may take several lovemaking sessions before penetration is achieved. Be patient with each other, enjoy the sensations, and the anticipation, and you will eventually succeed.

Answer 3

Wow, sorry your first time wasnt great, but take heart, not many first times are a pleasant experience. Firstly, you need to be totally relaxed, feel secure, and have protection and lubrication. Most young men havent learned much about foreplay, so that's why experience counts for a lot. Maybe you are too young, and havent developed enough. You and your boyfriend should go to the library, and get some anatomical books and check out what's really going on. Good luck, and please take care.

Answer 4

Does he have a big penis? Maybe he needs some lube. I have only had sex with a few different guys. It went okay my first time but it did not last long.

Answer 5

Your just not rready that's all, Don't do cause everyone is doing it, wait till your ready. You'll know what to do when your ready.
The same thing happend to me the first time. You have to feel it in your heart, you'll know when the time is right, and you'll know exactly what to do.

Answer 6

if u werent very wet it would have been hard for him to get it in. did u foreplay or go straight for it?
also.. he could have fingered u first to loosen u a bit.
my first time wasnt very good.. it hurt and was uncomfortable. My bf told me i was pretty tight.

Answer 7

Oh man, it was awful. It was with this Chinese hooker and she just wasn't into it. Her apathy was very disconcerting plus it was my first time so I got nervous and couldn't keep it up. I tried stuffing it in anyway but no luck. I was 23.

Answer 8

First time is never good :) You just gotta get the practice, once you've broken the hymen you'll be fine :) Then you can go wild!

Answer 9

he needs to help losen you up. lube, and stimulation. i've had a baby and if i don't get worked up mine is too tight and it is painful to have sex. especially for those first few times lube helps. oral stimulation lubes and also helps too.

Answer 10

It's called for-play. Tell him to give it a try. If that don't work lubricant works also.