so ive got a problem with my best friend of many years who finally say about a month ago that hes really liked me for ages. wasnt sure how i felt and thngs were weird for a while. we were getting quite close, he was making effort to get me to like him. then he met some other girl and they got together a few days ago. hes strange now in that when its three of us he is rude to me also being all over her in front of me kissing and stuff. does he just wanna make me jealous? or is he paranoid about her finding out he likes me too? he texted me the next day and acted like everything was cool between us all nice like nothing happened??? he could tell i was upset at him, but is a shy type that doesnt want to ask to avoid confrontation. i have never known him to be like this (everyone who knows him says he is the nicest guy!!) and he has always treated me well. just want to sort it out but not sure how to approach him! any ideas? would be good to get a guys opinion too
2007-03-18 19:11:01 · 12 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he really is trying to se if you are jealous, lots of guys use this trick...he wants you..
2007-03-18 19:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a guy, this is what I think under your perception and assuming his.
Perhaps he does like you. Only that with another woman, he is just TRYING to display lesser interest in you because he likes you. However the best way for him to not show his interest in you, is to fool around with another woman. (This is assuming him)
However, his action are dispicable and truly pathetic. He may like you, and you know what, you should be flattered if he sincerely likes you. Did you even appreciate him for that? Be fair.
Lastly, you need a man who should be honest with you. If he acts like nothing happens, then you are being an idiot. Worse is you don't want to confront him. Life isn't fair, you make it fair. For things to work out, you have to take the first step and that means confrontation. Be honest with him. He's lying to you now. He's lying to himself. A man with no natural self-esteem can never bring everlasting happiness to the ones he love. This is your future along with his you are bringing up.
If you cannot confront, this issue will always continue an will become worse, just like any untreated illness. If he's a nice guy like many people would say, then this is what you should know. "They know nuts and bolts about him."
Everyone has bad and good points. If they seen only his good points, means he never revealed his bad ones.
I'd slap you in the face to make sure you don't go out with this guy if I can even slap you in the first place.
Relationships is not about being steady, its about building your friendship and bond with the ones you care, till the right time comes should you decide to take the relationship to a new level. If he truly loves you, he'd focus more about his future and will choose the difficult path to building a stronger bond with you. If you mean that much to him, then he should make the effort to strengthen his feelings for you and start giving a pillar for his future.
If he does all this, then I say you're lucky.
...but you know what, you ain't lucky, because he isn't doing a small percent of what you described him to be.
As I have said, I'd slap you to not go out with that man who can't even be honest with himself. A man that lies to himself is capable of lying to any other people.
U asked what you can do with him?
Simple, after reading what I said, you go do what you believe would make YOU more happy. I strongly believe you would make the right decision after reading this.
2007-03-18 19:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by The Antique Pirate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you don't put up with his behavior.he behaves weirdly and you are just the same with him the next day?? why don't you give him a piece of his own medicine and land up with another guy and start being over friendly with that guy. that should work like a charm . bin there. done that.works wonders.. based on his reactions,everything will fall into perspective and you'll also know his intentions behind his behavior.and one more thing. don't get shaken up by anything. and even if you are.. Don't Show It. act cool...
2007-03-18 19:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his sorry butt as a friend. he's too much of a coward to lose the other girl.
You contradict yourself saying he is rude to you AND that he has always treated you well.
Do yourself a favor and get away. Usually girls know to do this pretty quickly. What's wrong with you?
2007-03-18 19:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jonathan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was testing you, even if he didn't realize it. He probably wanted you to fall into his arms when he announced that he really liked you. When you didn't, maybe he was trying to force you into action.
A lot of guys want to get together with their friend-girls. They often get pretty weird about it, too.
2007-03-18 19:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bruce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really is jelous!! especially if he is kissing her right in front of you! if he pretends like everything is cool the next day, then you shoudl confront him about it..but don't confront him abotu it if you don;t like him back because if you don't liek him back why shoudl you confront him? and then that would confuse him and make it awkwarderer.
good luck!
2007-03-20 10:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Juls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to make you jealous, you said that he said that he's had feelings for you for a long time... those kinds of feelings just don't go away.
2007-03-26 16:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a test. Be confident. Fate's here. Dont worry. You go girl.
2007-03-25 22:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by aNjAsMaRa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"being all over her in front of me kissing and stuff."
What a crap head. He sounds immature and can't make up his mind. Don't waste your time.
2007-03-26 16:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sibyl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-26 17:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ro Ro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋