I've been dating this guy for about a month now and in the spirit of trying to do things right we put off doing the thing couples "do." This was nice, we got to know each other pretty well in many areas and he's a super great guy: sweet, smart, successful(at least soon), and attractive. The problem is we finally got to that point in the relationship and I was completely turned off...not in the beginning but when he climaxed his voice changed. He sounded like a girl. I was horrified! I know he's not a girl. I wanted to put my hand over his mouth.
I didn't know what to do; I didn't want to hurt his feelings and tell him right then that he had to sound more like a man. And I'm not sure I want to have that conversation at all. Things would be weird and he would never be comfortable being himself around me if I picked his intimate behavior apart. At least that's what I think would happen. Should I just cut my losses now or try to talk to him and if so how?
2007-03-18 18:59:12 · 14 answers · asked by kgconcerned 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this bothers you now, it is going to bother you every time you have sex with him in the future. You will probably get turned off eventually. May be there is no sexual chemistry between the two of you. Consider moving on.
2007-03-18 20:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by krsh28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you was buggin! that really would be a turn off, but even though you dont wanna do this your gonna have to talk to your man. no matter how you try to go about it its gonna be uncomfortable for the both of you so maybe you can just suggest that he not make any noise during sex. if he wants to know why then tell him that it turns you off to hear a man make noise during sex and that you think that should be left for the woman to do. dont tell him he sounds like a girl cause i really think that could hurt his ego. also you havent been in a relationship long enough to just tell this boy that he sounds like a girl. whos to say youll be together in another 6 months. if it becomes a real long lasting relationship then you can eventually address the girly sound problem but for now i suggest asking him to keep quiet.
2007-03-18 19:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to have a conversation with your boyfriend about this, but you are telling the whole world about it over the internet. Makes perfect sense to me.
And besides, this guy is sweet, smart, successful and God knows what else, and you're ready to dump him because of how he sounds when he climaxes??? Can you say SHALLOW? I mean what percentage of time are you going to have to endure his "climax" voice, and what percentage of time are you going to enjoy the company of a sweet, smart successful guy that most women would probably give their right arms to have in their lives? One word for you, toots: Priorities.
2007-03-18 19:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, He is still the same nice guy you were attracted to. If his voice changes wants the big deal. If he pleases you in bed and you really like him, you should beable to over look the voice change. If i found the right guy and he pleased me in every way and his voice changed in having climaxed i wouldn't care. It would be a part of him,something you wouldn't beable to change. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-18 19:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hard.... I would recommend you tell him. In a sexual relation both of you have to enjoy it. and if you arent this is going not very far. Tell him in a way that is not offending, in public, or when either of you are mad. Just very calmly tell him that something is bothering you. He'll get the point and do something about it.. he will ask you why didnt you tell him before do...
2007-03-18 19:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, go for the smothering technique, weather it is kissing him, slowly shoving his face into the pillow..lol, just come up with something!!
I do think u right by assuming that he will be offended if u just told him, or act distant......so option: operation "smother!!"
if that doesn't help....then u talk to him, gently (i always think breaking up should be a last option)
2007-03-18 19:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a conversation about love. Start by asking him what he likes are doesn't like in bad, then you tell him all you like and don't like.
Then both work on it.
Heck I don't know, but I guess that's what I would do if bothered me that bad.
Sorry not much help.
2007-03-18 19:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, when you know he's about to climax, kiss him. At least this way you don't have to hear his shrill voice AND get a great climactic kiss. ;)
2007-03-18 19:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this would have to be the weridest question i've ever read !!!!!if your not happy were you are,why be there !!!!!it would be like going to bed with the CHEF off south park, & waking up next to KERMIT the FROG!!!! if there is no rainbow connection i'd be getting out !!!!!
2007-03-18 19:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay indoors!
But seriously, talk to him!
AND even more serious, what happened to waiting until marriage?? sssinnersss lol
2007-03-18 19:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by nicholettejohnson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋