I am a single young woman and the guys that I meet all seem creepy. They all say or do creepy things when I first meet them and then I am not so thrilled to hang out with them again. Am I sending out weird vibes or something? Why do I always get these guys coming up to me and no normal ones? Please help.
2007-03-18 18:58:41 · 14 answers · asked by J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey now some of you are getting the wrong idea. These guys aren't bad people they just say some really perosnal things within the first few days of meeting them. They seem creepy because I don't know them that well.
And I'm in college so I meet new people all the time. All I do is talk to them and try to get to know them at first.
2007-03-19 04:20:12 · update #1
it all depends on your personal view of 'normal'. a little more details on 'creepy', and what exactly you do when you first meet them would certainly help with the answers here.
2007-03-18 19:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by nerveserver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're version of "normal" is a little twisted. Most normal guys will have some tweaks... that's what makes people unique. Also when someone is nervous, they are more likely to let something slip out of their mouths that may sound creepy but is completely taken the wrong way. They could be trying to be nice or flirt with you or whatever and are just bad at it. It takes more than a couple dates to really see what a guy is like.
2007-03-19 02:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be sending out weird vibes. I would read the first one below if you want to know if you are sending out weird vibes. The second is a little scientific but has some really good stuff in there for you question. It also might be where you are meeting guys. You have to find the normal spot for flirting in an area. That will be where "normal" guys are.
http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
http://www.webster.edu/depts/artsci/bass/faculty/mm1985.htm
2007-03-19 02:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess you either have to widen your parameters for normal or narrow your boundaries for creepy. The neat thing about humans and our relationships is that no two are the same. You have to realize that what floats your boat might not be what floats the guy's boat. If it is a big and moral conflict with you, move on, if it isn't that "creepy" or not completely ab"normal," give him a chance, maybe you will find your horizons expanding and your love growing.
2007-03-19 02:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by HermannzeGerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah i cant help you out there but i can definatly relate in a way. For a time there all i got were the ones with issues..who seemed fine at first. One blamed his depression on me and had weird journal entries with creepy(not well written) songs about me, another one had a mental breakdown and i had to go visit frequently in the mental ward...and then it seemed every guy coming up to me for a while was either a recovering alchoholic/drug user..or slightly insane. In conclusion: dont worry your not doing something wrong, it definatly doesnt happen to just you. Just try and look for the early signs and then avoid aha, its working for me.
2007-03-19 02:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by blondiepoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here it is from me:
i consider myself creepy when i talk to women cuz i have a tendency to gaze in their eyes and touch their hair when they're not looking, but i am quite misunderstood and because of that girls never take the time to get to know me, i'm a very caring person and the only relationship problems i've had were because of that... so you never know, they might not really be that creepy
2007-03-19 02:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by truthxbeyondxrecognition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's something that happens to all girls you just hsve to know when to walk away from them there are plenty of great guys out there it just so happens that the creepy ones are attracted to you first and the good ones come in and see you talking to the gross ones and get turned off
2007-03-19 02:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by kaceek21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i know it dosent have nothing to do with you...its just that your not intrested to that type of guys(wich might seem creepy to you, but not to others) so the right person will be the person that you dont think is creepy
2007-03-19 02:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I suppose there will be times you meet weirdos. Just pass it and move on till you find normal ones, I guess...
2007-03-19 02:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may reconsider WHERE you go to try to find guys you want to potentialy form a relationship with.
2007-03-19 02:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋