and we got into another fight last nite. We were both tipsy and I said some mean, hurtful things to her. I grabbed all my stuff and left. Pretty much leaving there thinking i wouldnt ever be back. Of course now i'm regreting it seeing as how we havent been getting along very well. Now, weve broken up before and I stormed out, but I've always regreted it the next day or 2. But she is the type of person that likes to be left alone after an arguemnet like that and I am opposite, I like to talk things out. Now, I know im gonna get some "o just leave her" remarks but I really love her and want to work things out. Lately she's been saying that I need to give her more space My question is: What if i gave her the space she wants? We just had a bad fight, Its obvious she needs to be away from me for a while. In that time, she'll either realize she wants me and misses me in her life or she'd be better off. I've never given her appropriate space and think if i gave her a week, she'd come around
2007-03-18 18:54:54 · 5 answers · asked by Carlos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I am afraid she isn't the only one that needs to come around. Yes, give her the space and if I were you I would allow some extra time this time, but put it to good use. Write her a letter and in it, tell her what you just said here, about the fact that you both realize this seems to be a recurring theme in your relationship. Tell her the encouraging thing about your relationship is that you both must care for one another because you always get back together. But also tell her, you realize that if the two of you are ever going to mature as a couple, that you both need to have some serious discussions about how to fight. See, its not that you fight...everyone has fights ...whats important is you both learn how to fight. If in the letter you tell her that when she is ready you would like to explore with her how you can both improve on the way in which you communicate so that it will enrich your relationship. Now.....this letter does not guarantee she will let you back, but I think it would be a huge sign to her that you were serious about fixing this part of the relationship. Also tell her in the letter that you can't wait to be back with her but she is to take all the time she needs. If and when you two are back together then don't wait to get started on all that you lay out in the letter....Good Luck!
2007-03-18 19:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm sorry that you are fighting.Allot of hurtful things are always said.If it were me I would send her some flowers and tell her how you feel.In the card I would tell her that she can take all of the time she needs and that you will Waite.Everyone needs some space now and then.Good luck.
2007-03-18 19:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep getting drunk and leaving her, you may not have the choice of coming back too much longer. It is time to resolve the problem that is causing the two of you to argue so much!
2007-03-18 19:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys ever later talk about what you were arguing about? Or does it just get swept under the carpet? How often does this happen?
2007-03-18 19:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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