Should I say this to her? I'm not sure because I'm confused about what to do?

Question

Hey. How are you? From the moment we stopped talking, I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've worked on those things to improve myself. A special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. I miss when we used to talk and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I really care about you and like I said, you're special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I

had for you.
I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END)

Her 17th b-day is in two weeks. I'm 17 as well. Two sides of me are telling me to try because I love her and the other is saying there must be a good reason for my benefit she's gone and let her stay gone. I've liked her since I was 15 and she was 15, when we met, and 4 months into the year 2006 (we were both 16) we talked but after that I did something by mistake, she got mad at me, and I gave her space. When I tried to talk to her she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back. Could I have given her too much space (a month and a half), to where she'd think I must not care since I didn't try my hardest to get her back, and that's why she said she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. By the way, when I talked to her online after that about it, she always responded when I said something. Should I post the conversation so I can get some interpretations of it?

Should I get her something or just tell her happy birthday? I think I might push her further away or give her more power if I get her something

Answer 1

You had me at hello! You sound sweet just don't forget to take a breath and give her time to process what you are saying and be ready to listen to her response! Go for it! ;)

Answer 2

give her something small, but not something too big to scare her or give her that much power.

don't say all that to her...especially like that. it seems like you planned it and wrote it out and not from the heart. don't write a letter of that to her too. you'll know when to tell her that stuff, and you might not even need to when the time comes. i had someone tell me that, and he scared me...scared me away. i knew he was telling the truth, but we were 20 years old, 2nd year in college and he told me he loved me. honestly, and your friend might feel this way too, you can't tell someone you love her at that age and situation. you can only do that when you're in a relationship and have gone through things together.

but good luck. you should know and feel when to say it. just hang out and try talking to her slowly. if she's not responding the way you want, that means she's not into it. :/

"take it slow"
-john legend

Answer 3

well revealing ur personal conversations would be like something that you dont really have to do cuz u kno... wel anyways yea a month and a half may have been too much maybe she thought that you didnt want to talk to her so she got used to the idea of not having you around n stuff... but try to win her back at least as friends show her how special she is for you... and this my friend what you wrote... is a very good start good job... but try man believe me dont throw these chances away

Answer 4

I see that you must really love this girl, I say just give her the letter you never know what it can do, she might be missing you too, I doubt that she has forgotten about you, you guys both seem like you were really cool, she may have matured just as you seem to have please do not let anymore time pass by!

Answer 5

Its worth a shot to tell her how you feel,but don't come on too strong.You don't want to scare her way.Just say whats in your heart.If she still doesn't want to be with you,then you need to let it go.

Answer 6

Wow I really don't know what to tell you.. But it would prolly make her happy if you did say that to her.

Answer 7

send her some roses and a card for her birthday. and see what happens after that,, but be cool with it.