I have been dating this girl from my university for about three months and she admits that we are in a relationship. When I try to kiss her she just bury her head into my shirt and she starts to cry. I have not told that I love her and I am her first real boyfriend. She did not even date a guy in high school because her friends told me that the guys at the school did not ask her out to a movie or hang out. So I am really stuck in the gutter with this and please help me with this situation because all the girls I dated had boyfriends. So I am new to this situation and please give me some great advice and please no teenage answers, Thank you!
2007-03-18 18:47:38 · 10 answers · asked by avenger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it seems like as if she may have had something bad happen to her she could possibly be ashamed to talk about it or maybe she is still in fear. All i can suggest is to ask her kindly if something is bothering her. If you do love her be understanding and try to help her she may need to seek professional counselling and u could always go with her to give her moral support......... I am a counsellor myself and a teacher and I can understand where you are coming from. Dont let this get in the way of something that could be special. She may also be just shy because she has had no experience..... be patient with her and let her know that you are not going to hurt her..... let her know thatyou really care and that you are with her because you love and respect her....if you like email me ........ littlemisssaigon@hotmail.com
2007-03-18 19:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and talk to her about it. Why doesn't she want to kiss you? Is it because she's never kissed anyone and she's scared she'll be bad at it?
Or is it because she doesn't want to get physically involved with anyone? Or is it you?
Did she have any bad childhood experiences?
You have to talk to her because otherwise there's no way to know is there.
I know tons of people who didn't date in High School for whatever reason. But I don't know a single person in this day and age who thinks kissing (after 3 months!) is a reason to cry?!
Ask her to kiss you. Maybe if its going to be her first kiss tell her no tongue at first is ok.
But if no physical relationship is a problem for you, you should tell her that. Its brutal for any girl to hear that a guy wont be with her because he isn't physically satisfied, so be gentle.
Explain to her that you consider kissing and making out to be the basic minimum of any relationship and that you don't understand why she doesnt WANT to kiss you. Tell her you feel rejected and don't want to put pressure on her, but you really need to understand why this is a problem.
Good luck!
2007-03-18 18:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be obvious to you by now that you are moving too fast for this girl. I know, after three months, a little kiss should be ok, but it clearly isn't to her. So take a step back, stop trying to get to the kissing stage and just continue a bit with the no-pressure dating.
2007-03-18 18:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to be asking her this question. Asking her is the only way to know what is bothering her. No one else can tell you.
If she is just scared, be patient with her. If she has a legitimate reason for acting this way, try to help her work it out.
2007-03-18 18:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got some serious issues.. maybe abuse or something. Just ask her what is going on. If she gets too weird, move on. Life is too short and you are too young to deal with crazy sh@t like that anyway. But, just ask her. Maybe it's some weird insecurity she is having and you can reassure her that it's all good.
2007-03-18 18:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sienna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, you guys are funny. Just give her time. obvisiously she's probably just insecure and not sure if you're just using her for physical stuff. Try to be close to her emotionally and let her get close physically when she feels ready. sorry this is a "teenager answer."
2007-03-18 18:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by good advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tricky there is something bothereing her and it's inportant you find out what it is try going to her and talking openly about it be care ful it might not be what your thinking. othere than that i can only suggest that you go talk to her friends and see if they can shed some light on the problem good luck
2007-03-18 18:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by kaceek21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation...give her time...maybe she had some trauma in her life. Just give her the time she needs....try holding her hand or hugging her tight..if you force her you will lose her!
2007-03-18 18:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by JUST ASK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kissing might be bring memory of pain to her.
2007-03-18 18:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by J C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by asking her point-blank why she cries when you kiss her. If she won't answer you, I'd give her up. Drama? No thanks.
2007-03-18 18:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by littlechrismary 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋