hi... My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years really wants to get a tattoo on his upper arm, but he hasn't so far because I really don't want him to. I understand why he wants it...he said he wants to show that he is unashamed to wear a symbol of his faith on his body...but I'm convinced there are other ways, more practical ways to do that. I don't think tattoos look bad on all people..but I really don't know if it would suit him. I also think, in many ways, he just wants one because a lot of people that he looks up to in his family have them...and I hate that it's so permanent. I don't want to look like the "bad guy" that I won't let him get a tattoo...and I wouldn't break up with him if he got one...but I'm really really against it. Does anyone have any reasons for or against getting tattoos...or any suggestions of how I could handle the situation? Thanks...
2007-03-18 18:41:06 · 15 answers · asked by Leah 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
Well, sorry but the bible does NOT say that tattooing is a sin, thats a verse that tattoo haters took out of context to try to scare people out of getting one. The bible says dont make cuts in your skin for the dead. (something pagans used to do, so the bible warns against it). If he wants one and it'll make him happy, why is that such a bad thing? It sounds like it'll be a totally normal tattoo, and even if you dont like tattoos...you'll get used to it. I'm sure he knows he'll have to live with it for the rest of his life. We all know that, and those of us with tattoos decided , we were okay with that.
2007-03-18 18:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A tattoo is a big commitment to make to your body. I have been considering a tattoo as well for a while, but have been just doing that considering. You should respect and try to understand your boyfriend's reasoning behind getting the tattoo and do your best to avoid assuming anything behind his reasoning. My personal main reason for not going out and getting the tattoo is because I am not sure how I am going to feel about it in 10 or 20 years. There are many people that feel more confident in their tattoo choices and make the committment, while there are others who 'made a mistake' and struggle to remove it later in their lives. Each person feels different about thier body as an a platform for art- as in tattoo or memories as represented by tattoos. Give him time, if you really love him- it won't matter as to whether or not he gets the tattoo, but rather how your relation ship progresses- it's only a tattoo, he's not cutting off any appendages haha- good luck
2007-03-18 18:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by actuatedtendancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that adament about getting a tattoo you should support him. It is his body and he'll probably do it eventually... especially if you guys break up at some point. It would be better to support him in his decision now so the issue won't cause a rift between you guys. Tattoos are permanent, but if he's put this much though into it then he probably knows what he wants, and they CAN be removed later. There are also much more worse things he could do to his body.
2007-03-18 18:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I want to state that I have recently got my first tat. It looked so beautiful the night I got it! And I'm proud to say that my lover was the one who did it for me. Unfortunately, it isn't so pretty now, because I didn't know that I'm allergic to tattoo ink! However, this problem is easily fixable, I just have to take an anti-allergine routinely when I get it fixed and during the healing process.
The reason I comment on mine is because it is a symbol of my faith. I am so proud that I got it. Wearing my religious jewelry is special to me, but having the mark on my skin, and the both painful and pleasurable experience getting it done, makes it that much more personal. If some one is truly committed to their spiritual beliefs, then getting a tattoo to convery it is something I would definitely support them on.
But here is the downside to tattoos...
Make sure you go to a professional artist in a parlor. If you don't go to a pro, then you run high risk of contracting an infection or blood-born disease. (I am sad to say my lover is not a pro in a parlor, however, he does own professional equipment and does beautiful work. I did watch in the sterilization of the equipment, which I assure you was complete due to my knowledge taught to me by my mother, a nurse.)
A tattoo is also not a good option is he is squeamish about pain. I've met some pros who will stop and recommend you to some one else if they find that you are too "childish" while recieving the work.
And if he intends to only get the one, he needs to be sure that he is not susceptible to addictions. I say this because the act of recieving a tattoo is very addictive. Everyone I know either hates the one that they got, or had to go back for more. I am one who does not become obsessed with ANYTHING easily, and I even enjoyed the experience so completely that I feel rushed to get more of my work done.
The best thing you can do is be there for him and support him in his decision. It will help you deal with this easier by going with him to parlors and doing your own research. Perhaps you might even find yourself interested in getting your own inkwork done!
2007-03-18 19:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether if it's his religion or not...getting a tattoo is a huge deal. if he's trying to get a job which requires to show your arm, that will affect the way he's viewed or first impressions. this goes for social events as well. also, has he thought about what it would look like 30 years from now? and getting it removed doesn't always give it the same skin color. 40 bucks for a tattoo costs 400 to remove it.
2007-03-18 18:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by batmanxgirl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hi i have 3 tattoos my self so i can see why he wants 1 my husband also has a big tattoo on his left arm & i think tattoos on men with big arms like my husband look so sexy
2007-03-21 03:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by misskisskiss25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's his body. if my husband told me that he didn't want me to get a tattoo but didn't have a valid reason, i would be annoyed. tattoos are a big commitment as is one's faith and if he feels that strongly about it then good for him! tattoos are not about practicality they are about so many things to so many people. they can be memorials, reminders, timelines, art, symbols of love, fidelity and faith as well as many other things. i say drop the issue if he truly wants it then he should be able to get it without feeling bullied out of it.
2007-03-19 01:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm this is a very tricky subject me and my ex broke up because i wanted to get a large tattoo. my argument was that it was my bod, and a tattoo is an extention of that persons personality, and that he was trying to control my life. i think that if your bf likes tattoos then that is a part of him, and i dont think you should try and change him. however i can see it from your side and he should respect your veiws on him getting a tattoo.
2007-03-20 10:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is his body, let him do what he wants...I would understand your view if he were getting a pic of a naked chick or something. Think if it were something you really really wanted to get, and it was a family thing; wouldn't you get upset if he was stopping you from doing it? Being together means you are supposed to support each other.
2007-03-18 18:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell_pixy24 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its really his decision.The only thing you can do is tell him how you feel,and let him decide.How would you feel if it was you who wanted something and he was against it?Would you do what you want or what he told you to do?Its his body and you shouldn't stand in the way if its something he really wants.And besides,guys with tattoos are hot!!
2007-03-18 18:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by babiedll33 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋