I'm 24 this year and I'm dating a 30 year old. Despite my age, we're actually on the same level of maturity, which explains the attraction. I'm a free-thinker, while she's a Christian.
I can accept her for who she is, being a Christian and all. But the thing is, can she accept me for who I am? (without converting me, of course). How should I approach this?
2007-03-18 18:35:48 · 6 answers · asked by Eclipse25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it hasn't been a problem before now, it probably never will. I am an agnostic who married a southern baptist and we are working out just fine. The subject rarely comes up.
2007-03-18 18:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a problem, because this will always be a stress on the relationship. WTF is a free-thinker anyway? Never mind. I know that for some reason Christians feel really uneasy when their loved ones are not Christian. My mom has always resented the fact that I am not Christian. She still loves me but it is stressful when it comes to trying to convert me. I would if you not appose her with trying to provide you with information. To think on it without accepting it is an admirable trait in a strong mind. I would however show here that you will never be converted without freedom to choose. You have to let her know that she cannot force you into believing anything. Show here that you will keep an open mind as long as she doesn't take advantage of it. You have to be very careful not to upset her beliefs (because heir's are more important then yours ;). Christians seem so willing to dish it out but can't take it back, or at least some of them. You are going to have to take the higher road here and know that it is a lot harder when the congregation has more influence over your thoughts. Now you said you were a free thinker, really what is free about thought?
2007-03-18 18:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the term "free thinker" is a bit condescending.. Like she can't think freely because she's Christian? You should talk to her about it, I think. I know someone who was a Christian and he wouldn't get engaged to his fiancee until she converted from Judaism. (She did). In a relationship, you shouldn't generally try to change your partner.. But many Christians feel the need to share their beliefs so you can "accept Jesus into your life". (Not that there's anything wrong with that). So, definitely have a talk with her.
2007-03-18 18:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by regina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of hard for two people of different religious beliefs to see each other's point of view. Don't worry, though. If she's a by-the-book Christian, her entire beliefs are focused around acceptance and love. She SHOULD be able to accept you for who you are, but she might also TRY to nudge you into conformity. If you feel uncomfortable with it, don't be afraid to let her know.
2007-03-18 18:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
free thinker is nothing more than a ego maniac who's world revolves around your self if she smart she will run from you you are self absorbed and make me sick
2007-03-18 18:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Are we using our brains today 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it about honestly. if both of you know what you want in this
situation. then let thing happen. she cant change you ,
and you cant change her. and if that the things then this
might not work out. so talk to each other.
2007-03-18 18:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋