to muslim brothers and sisters?

Question

i have a christian boyfriend..and he is really really nice to me.. really really nice.. and we love each other alot! do u think it is possible for a muslim girl to marry a non believer if he allows the children to be believers? do u kno where i can talk to people (live) to get answers? i have posted many questions asking the same questions but i have never gotten an answer. what do i do?

Answer 1

Officially, a woman in Islam is not supposed to marry a man who is not Muslim. It is one of the few weaknesses of Islam. It values men's authority in the home more than a woman's. Men can marry a non-Muslim woman, the logic being that the man can convert the woman. However, Islamic tradition holds that the reverse is not likely true. I guess you can put a spin on this, however: Islam recognizes men to be too stubborn and pig-headed to convert at the coercion of a woman.

So if you date or marry a non-Muslim, you will be technically breaking Islamic law. It will be very difficult to get married in a mosque. It will be very difficult to get other Muslims to accept your marriage. That said, if you live in the United States or another western civilization, there are pockets of more liberal Muslims who will be more acceptable of the practice. So technically, it is not allowed... but it kind of depends on how orthodox you are and where you live.

Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck! That is a difficult situation to be in. There is no easy answer.

p.s. Someone else on here suggested finding out if your boyfriend would convert. I actually have a good friend who converted to Islam so that he could marry his Muslim wife. So that is an option, if your boyfriend is willing!

Answer 2

If you are Muslim, my sweet, you would know this is not allowed.
In fact, your parents have been a tad remiss to let you have a boyfriend, let alone one who is not Muslim.

Dating is not allowed sweetie. Not even for a single old Muslimah like me. Group dates maybe. You could call the Mosque and ask for the Imam. But you will get the same answer. You can only marry a Muslim.

Now for a little common sense.

Marriage is such a very important issue with so many important consequences to it, and Muslims should be aware of this and should make their decisions about Marriage accordingly. Unfortunately, some Muslims fall victim to their emotions and make big mistakes with their lives by marrying the wrong person.

The results are often devastating on the Muslims' life. Marriage issues not only affect the person, but also the children. Therefore, before making a decision about marriage, a Muslim should be aware of all the consequences on their own life, and on their children's life.

All scholars of Islam have agreed that it is not permitted under any circumstances for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man. In fact, Muslim scholars have ruled that if a Muslim man openly rejects Islam and becomes a non-believer, that his Muslim wife must leave him as he is no longer permitted for her to marry

Some Muslim woman do go ahead and marry a non-Muslim man. Some of them claim that Islam does not prohibit it, and that they have not seen proof prohibiting it, while they have barely read the holy Qur'an once or twice. They claim that the scholars of Islam are ignorant and backward minded, and they go ahead and follow their desires and marry a non-Muslim.

Answer 3

Sister this is not allowed in Islam at all. Please remember that you will be going completely against the religion if you marry him. Also one thing i want to point out is (not to say your boyfriend is acting as if he is nice) that bf/gf relationships always start really really nice because there is no commitment, both parties are at their best behavior. It is when you get married you get to know the 'real' person and many regret it as is shown by the high rate of divorce. Your marriage will not be considered valid by Islamic law and if you sincerely believe in Islam then i hope you don't do it or wait till your bf sincerely accepts Islam. And being nice is good but if he is willing to become Muslim then also make sure you agree on the very important things that really matter to you.

Answer 4

i am sorry to let u know but there is no way that a muslim woman marries a man of any other religion other than Islam, even if he agrees to raise the children as muslims right now. i don't mean to offend u but what if ur boyfriend agrees to it right now but then changes his mind after marriage? what if he says that whatever u r teaching to ur kids is wrong?

if possible, try to talk more about Islam to ur boyfriend and Insha Allah he will become a muslim. he just needs to learn the right information and will need some support from u. i don't know where u might talk to people...try some nearby mosques or islamic centers...they might have someone there to help u out with this situation.

good luck and i will keep u in my prayers.

Answer 5

study the Qur'an and save on praying ..each and every person have a destined time and everybody ought to undergo in strategies that the international is 3 days some surahs at the same time with surah fatiha- the outlet has the treatment for ailment Surah al ikhlaas the day till now immediately is lengthy previous, tommorow might never come and immediately, this is yours so artwork on it. I undergo in strategies it from a hadith yet do no longer quote me notice for notice. Assalamu alaikum wb additionally i do think of it may be suited to you to tell your mom and father do no longer bypass away them in the lifeless of evening because of the fact i'm advantageous that later on of desire they're going to consistently be there for you. Assalamu alaikum wb

Answer 6

What you doing is haram, you are not supposed to be dating.

Your deeds are for your ownself, and NO if you want to be a true Muslim you CANNOT marry a Non-Muslim.

Ask him to convert to Islam,

You can do whatever you like, but remember on the Day of Judgment you will have to answer to God.

Answer 7

As a Muslim, U are only allowed to marry someone who embrace Islam as his / her religion. If one of them is not a Muslim and they get married, their relationship will be considered as ZINA ( sex out of wedlock), even if they do go through the civil marriage, Islam will still consider their marriage as Null and Void ( not accepted in Islam ). Why don't U check with him whether he is willing to convert to Islam. Otherwise, it is advisable for U not to marry him, unless he convert himself to Islam. Do not change your religion in the name of " LOVE ." U will never have another Prophet Muhammad S.A.W. except in Islam. The TRUE Religion as mentioned in the AlQuran nul Kareem. As such, be proud to be a Muslim.

Answer 8

I believe that you should change your faith. Jesus is all that He says He is. If you won't then do the right thing and find a guy who believes as you do. If your boyfriend is a true believer, then your marriage will not do very well, if at all, and it will be very bad for your children. I am not trying to be mean, or sectarian, but even secular history disagrees with Islam. Your best bet is to either accept Jesus as savior, or break the relationship.

Answer 9

If he is a believing Christian, he will want his children to know Christ also.
But if he is just an indifferent Christian, maybe he would convert to Islam.

Answer 10

Ignore all the people telling you what you cannot do, and all the ignorance, hatred and and arrogance. If there is a God, he is a God of ALL people, not just Christians, Jews or Muslims.

Follow your HEART. Love is the answer. If you love each other, everything else will follow.