So my question is just that. I know alot of people talk to a girl they like or someone their dating for hours and hours about random small talkish things. Lets say theres a girl I like and we have conversations but theres always those silences where there's just not much to say. I dont mind them but Im not sure if she does or not. I mean is it not enough to just enjoy them, and being around them. Enjoying their personality and just who they are. Do you always need to have something to say? To me it seems like people who talk ALL the time are just afraid that if they stop the person their talking to will realise mabe he/she doesn't like them as much as they thought they did. I mean there cant always be talking what happens then? Im not saying people should go out with someone just because their funny or nice, of cource you need to have things in common but is it really nessisary to be speaking all the time? Like on a bus ride, why cant ppl just sit their and enjoy the others company?
2007-03-18 18:28:11 · 4 answers · asked by teh_masta_of_all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm . . . if you have a problem making small talk, just listen and try to stay interested. Also, if you don't have a whole lot to say, the best thing is to leave before you run out of things to say . . . it leaves them wanting more. You know, it seems like you have kind of a point there . . . but I think the main reason for small talk is to lead in to deeper topics and to establish some kind of connection. If you don't talk much, you can't really maintain a connection with another person. But if you talk, even just small talk, you can maintain a connection that can deepen over time. Why not just lay out the deep topics upfront? I guess because it would make the other party uncomfortable. But if someone has been listening to you talk about other topics, then they would probably respond well to hearing about more important things you have to say. Now, sometimes I think it's best to just sit and enjoy one another's company in romantic relationships. But the majority of the time some kind of talking is required to keep things from getting boring. Good night!
2007-03-18 18:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it as black and white. It doesn't have to be always silent or always full of chatter in your relationship. Small talk is a way of getting to know your mate in a smaller, inane way that is still important. Doesn't their personality and who they are shine through while you're talking about unimportant things too? And besides, talking freely helps with communication about issues and such. Enjoy their presence and enjoy being in silence, but enjoy talking about nothing as well.
2007-03-18 18:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lynnie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its good to get to know the person, but it goes away with time
2007-03-18 18:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right-you have the right idea.
2007-03-18 18:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋