I want my ex back but i cant get him back cus he likes someone else and doesnt want me back.i need some advice

Question

ok me n my ex boyfriend Ty have dated on and off for about 4 months.The last time we broke up he said he never would want me back but he wants to be my friend.He likes someone new and it kills me to have to go through that.I want him back.He was something important to me and he meant alot to me.I never wanted to lose him but i did.He recently dumped me about 2 weeks ago.I dont want to be friends i want to be his girlfriend.I told him how i feel but that doesnt work.Please i need some help getting him back.I cry for him alot because he means so much and i will do anything to get him back.im not desperate i was just in love.I know im stupid for wanting him back but i dont care i loved him and want him back but dont know what to do to get him back.

Answer 1

You could still be energetically connected to your ex, and while that sounds like encouragement from the universe, it's not -- it's you! You still may be giving him/her your energy in thought, emotional, or spiritual form. You could be doing so unconsciously, out of habit, or based on a belief that this love is the only (or the best love) you could ever have. And, quite possibly, you have not allowed yourself to fully grieve it yet.

On the other hand, there is also the possibility that your ex won't let go and is still hooked into you. If this is the case, you can clear that out in a gentle way with love and light (and say goodbye if that's what you wish).

Whatever the case, this may have been the deepest love you have ever shared with someone. But know that it is not the only love (or the best love) that you can -- or will -- share with anyone in the future.

MJ

Answer 2

OK, it's like this: pity doesn't work. Envy might make him think that he made a mistake dumping you. So, turn your back on him and do your best to really succeed at something. DO NOT try to be his friend, it will just suck. Find something to do where you can be really successful and get attention for it, like in the newspaper. Like, call the local blood bank or Red Cross and run the blood drive at the high school and get the notice in it in the newspaper. Or, call the local community theatre and find out when auditions are and get a role in a play. Find a local rock-climbing group and learn how to belay up a cliff. Or call the police and go on a ride-along -- if you run into him, you want to talk about how exciting your life is and all the new things that you're doing. Think of different things that are amazing and go do them. He'll envy you and wonder if he made a mistake. If you chase after him, he'll figure you're desperate and not worth having. Show him how you're fabulous and you don't care about him. Men only want to pursue what they can not have.

Answer 3

I do sympathize with you, getting over someone you love is a hard thing to do. Unfortunately in your case, it will be best if you try to move on. I know that you said that your not desperate, but by saying that you would do whatever it takes to get him back is kinda contradicting. If you've been dating him on and off for 4 months that means that maybe the relationship was not meant to be. I know that no relationship is perfect, but maybe there was a good reason on why he broke up with you. Count it as a blessing. Don't be desperate because that will lead him to believe that your dependent on him and that will only feed his ego. Do your self a favor and have some fun being single, this will allow you to be free to meet other people and hopefully someone that you are better compatible with.

Answer 4

Well, I am a guy! I have done the viceversa of what you are doing. In all honesty, you can continue crying, listening to romantic songs that also make you cry and remember your good times with him. Truth is that once a guy or girl of that matter puts you on "a friend status"it is harder to get that chance again. That is only if an oppurtunity should arise. Oppurtunity? That is what life is full of. Some are good, some are bad. It is only depending on what the occasion is, atmosphere is, strongly the situation. Overall you do not want to hurt yourself. Yoda is right about darkside, it starts with fear.

Answer 5

You sound like a very nice person, but you must be really young. Four months is not long enough to fall in love. It takes time to get to know someone enough to love them.

There is no doubt in my mind, however, that you really care a great deal for him. Unfortunately, that feeling has to be reciprocated by him. We can't force people to feel as we do about them. It is probably best that you let him go. Try to avoid seeing him. Someone that will be able to return your feelings will come along, and you will forget this guy.

Answer 6

STOP!!!! Look closely at the opening line of your question: HE DOESN'T WANT ME BACK!!!!

There you go. Now you need to get distance and forget the "lovely" memories you have.

Move on. I've done the keep it going 'til you suck it dry relationship thing too and its not worth it. Just move forward and take any lessons you can from this one. He may see your new independence of him and come running back, but by that time you'll probably be sooooo over him.

Answer 7

I've been where you are and i know it hurts. My x would break up with me every few months but after 2 years she did it and I said fine its over. Its been a hard 6 months and i miss her every day but i know I'm better for it. She cheated on me and lied to me but i loved her with all my heart. Let this guy go and just be nice to other guys and stop obsessing about him and another one will come along. Good luck, there are lots of nice guys out there who would love a sweety like you.

Answer 8

Move on!