I am 26 with three children and my family keeps asking if I'm done now?

Question

i am married with three great kids and i provide well for them but my family keeps asking if im done and if i am going to get fixed should it be there bisness i would like one more child but a fewyears from now but i fear my family would flip.

Answer 1

well as long as your happy and those babies are happy and you think you could handle a fourth child then do what you thinks right it's not your family taking care of those babies . don't get fixed if your not ready i'm 25 with 3 kids and i listen to my mother and got fixed and now i regret it me and my husband both want another child . something like that listen to your own heart no ones elses

Answer 2

You are still young, and if you want another I say go for it! Just Dont worry about what your parents say.... Its your life. Im 21 with baby number 2 on the way. Well technicly 4 cause I lost twins. And my family has told me they dont think that I should have anymore, but I want 2 kids. and Yes, this one was a bit sooner than I had planned but that is why you plan things. If you can afford it and can handle It I dont see why you shouldnt. I think that if you provide well for your family and have s steady household there is no rason people shouldnt have kids if they want to, unless they already have 6 kids or something like that....

Its your life, If you are done, then yes get 'fixed' but if you want more, just keep planning like you said you are doing. Tell your family that it is your decision. They will love you and the baby regurdless.

Answer 3

Wow! I completely understand your situation! I am 25, married and have three great kids. I was pregnant last year with my fourth, but unfortunately lost the baby. My family is always asking if I'm done now, with the tone in their voice that I should be! To their credit, I have had really tough pregnancies and their concerns may be due to my health, but I don't see it as any of their business. I do not go to them to help me raise my children, financially or otherwise, so I do not listen to what they say as far as having more children. The decision is yours and your husbands alone. I tell my family that unless they plan on going through the pregnancy for me, delivering the baby, and raising the child, then there is no room for their input on my future plans.

Answer 4

Im 21 and have a 1 month old daughter. Married and I live on my own. When I became pregnant my dad said oh god thats all u need. When I talk about having another baby a couple years down the road they think Im crazy. My parents had 5 kids and starting out didnt have a thing. I just ignore them. Its my life and my body and my kids. Its none of your familys buisness. U take care of your kids. Dont let anyone tell u how many kids u should have thats ur decision.

Answer 5

Your still young, so as long as you are providing well for them and are`nt exspecting your families help in looking after them (unless they want to help), then have as many as want , but know you can look after. If you still want another one, then having all your kids before your 30 will have them off your hands in your 50`s, thats good. Or you could wait till your in your 30`s for number 4, and the struggle of 4 young ones lessons, because the other 3 will be bigger by then.
I think your family should stay out of it, unless you really are not coping with parenting duties as well as you say you do.

Answer 6

You and your partner decide how many children you want and when you want to have them. I have a 14 month old and my husbands family started asking me when we were going to have another one when my son was only 8 months old. Every ones family thinks its their business. Tell them the truth and do what feels right for you. If you can afford another child, have that child when you are ready.

Good luck and do not let them upset you.

Answer 7

While I think you need to respect your family, you are the only one who knows what you need and want. If you feel like you want to have another child, then you are the only one who can make that call. There is obviously a reason you have thought you would like to have another child. Follow YOUR instincts. And unless they have a very legitimate reason for thinking you are not capable of having more kids then they need to respect you and what you want to do with your life. If you are providing for your family and can keep providing for them, then you do what you need to do. And if your family can't support you, then it's their loss NOT yours.

Good luck!!

Answer 8

I'm goin thru the same problem I'm 21 with two and thats what my families say and they actually try and discuss what I need to do. I always tell them to just stay ou tof that part of my business because that is something that is truly none of their business. If you want to have anther child thats non of their business either they will acept it or not as long as you love it it will be ok.

Answer 9

yea i know how you feel. i waited 10 years between my second and third and everyone thinks im crazy. even more crazy now cuz i think of having another one. nothing you can do except what your heart says to do. if you want one have one, if not go get fixed, if you are unsure now, use birth control for now and decide down the road, just remember that birth control is not 100% so you could get a little suprise down the road. good luck and hang in there, its your life and your body, you need to decide.

Answer 10

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