I have been single of the past 3.5 years. I have a daughter who is six years old. I have dated guys in the past but it has always been casual and usually the relationships only last about 2 weeks. Now I am a very opinionated woman. I say what I think and I can be extremely blunt at times. I have heard from friends that guys like me and they think that I am attractive but they know that I wont like them back.
Many of my guy friends tell me I am intimidating. As well as my female friends.
I know it sounds stupid but how can I not be so intimidating? I am so used to just being myself.
I am to shy to make a move on a guy, but I don't want to be alone forever.
I catch guys looking at me but they never ask me out..
I smile, I am sincere, I am giving.
I NEED HELP..
I am not a super gorgeous girl.
But I guess I am average. I have short golden blonde hair and tan skin. I am a little chunky I wear a size twelve pants, but I work out a lot. I take care of myself.
2007-03-18 17:48:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now don't you dare try to change yourself. You are perfect as you are, and it's worth the wait to find someone who appreciates you exactly as you are. Would you want to find the right man by acting like a totally different person and then marry him? You would have to act like someone else for your whole life.
It's better to be less shy when talking to guys. Usually when someone says your intimidating it means your such a great catch guys are scared of being rejected by you. So go out and hit on some men! guys love that and I guarantee you won't get rejected.
2007-03-18 17:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by axe happy juggalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reserve your opinions till a time when it is more appropriate to sound them. People want to be around others who are easy to get along with and who won't judge them. When you have strong opinions, you come across as judgmental. Now there is nothing wrong with being opinionated, but you must get to know the person first and give them a fair chance before assuming one way or another. Besides, no one is perfect so you should try to look for the good in people and weigh it against their not so attractive attributes. If you can live with the end result, then great.
2007-03-18 17:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by asif k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be yourself. Mr. Right will come along when you least expect it. You don't want to attract the wrong person by trying to be someone that you're not. Don't worry so much about your appearance, size, weight, etc. Be confident! If you're confident in yourself, people will sense that and be automatically attracted to you. I've gone from a size 3 to a size 13 and up and down like a yo yo for the past 10 years. I've also experimented with different hair styles, cuts, colors, along with clothing styles. I've even tried to be the perfect person for each person that I've dated in the past. I've learned that the most important thing is to be yourself and to be confident! After I started doing that, I found my soul mate. Our one year wedding anniversary is coming up in May! Love yourself and others will love you. Good luck!
2007-03-19 05:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let's see, you're opinionated, you're blunt, but you're shy. How about being nice? Sweet? A good listener? The kind of friend you'd like to have? It seems like you are trying very hard not to be concerned with what other people think -- that you're very worried about what others think but you're trying to pretend that you don't care. How about treating others the way you'd like to be treated? Instead of being blunt, try being a good listener and sympathetic to others. Try making friends of both sexes. Instead of being concerned about dating, just meet people who are also parents of kids your age, and just hang out. Get to know men before you date them, and certainly before you jump into bed with anyone. Be a friend and you'll have friends, and if you befriend a guy first, then dating can come later.
2007-03-18 17:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immerse yourself in an environment with intelligent men that could handle your blunt opinions and wouldn't find you generally attractive until they've actually met you and gotten to know who they are. Any shallow guys who find you attractive straight off the bat are most likely not the ones for you.
2007-03-18 17:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by cashew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm its probably the daughter....some guys don't want to date a woman with a kid...umm...personally i wouldn't care that much and i love children, but i am probably a little young for you...lol
2007-03-18 17:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Size 12? Yeah, it's intimidation that's keeping them away...mm-hm...
2007-03-18 17:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Love You!!!
2007-03-18 17:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋