Today, my family and I drove to a nearby city to shop for groceries. On the way back, my mom started driving recklessly. As I cautioned her to start paying attention to the road otherwise we may get in an accident, my mom did something so RECKLESS, STUPID and LIFE-THREATENING because she was mad at my criticizing her. We were on a two-lane highway with concrete barrages on either side driving at MORE than 60 mph. My mom suddenly swerved the steering wheel to the left. Before the car made contact with the wall, my mom swerved to the right and almost hit the wall before swerving right and left to regain control of the car. We were less than a second away from a fatal accident. She did the whole stunt just to shut me up. I definitely didn't think it was worth the risk. I don't think I did ANYTHING wrong but obviously something is bothering my mom, which is why she's blaming me. I realized one thing today: life is precious. I realized life is too precious to lose. What should I do next?
2007-03-18 17:45:41 · 8 answers · asked by David H 2 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Safety
I'd like to add that my mom is a "house mom" who cares for two teenagers: my sister and me. Lately, she thinks that I am against her when I really think I'm not. Maybe I'm not showing enough love towards her or so she says. She also accuses me of breaking up the relationship between my dad and herself. I feel really wronged here because I truly have no false intentions and have no guilt. I've done no such thing; yet, she hurts me so. She has expectations of her 'perfect' teenager that I fail miserably to live up. My dad, who usually is supportive of me, is beginning to feel pressured into siding with my mom against me to avoid further arguments. My younger sister, meanwhile is out of the entire fray (I don't know why). I do spend considerably less time with my mom than dad. Maybe that's where she gets her ideas. Although, sometimes I do find myself extremely annoying because I have to rub in everything I say. My parents really want me to go to a good college so I might as well do that.
2007-03-18 18:05:45 · update #1
My dad is also a very righteous man so I don't know why my mom's acting up. Maybe it's because she's extremely isolated or that she watches too many marriage problem soap operas.
2007-03-18 18:08:39 · update #2
Not to be Johnny Raincloud... but i don't think you would have died.
At anyrate, near death (or what you believe to be near death) experiences can be very eye opening, if only for a short time. You'll notice within a week or so, you'll go back to your average humdrum way of life.
For right now, take in everything. Just sit in your room, in complete silence and appreciate the texture of the ceiling, or look at something you've had for years, but haven't even thought of in just as long. Appreciation is something a lot of us fail to do in our everday lives. Tell your mom you love her, and ask her why she did what she did... it's obvious there's something wrong there.
Goodluck
2007-03-18 17:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by fenderguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother was being completely irresponsible by performing a stunt like that. You're correct that you could have been killed and here's why:
Your mom reacted to your criticism immediately and did the "big swerve" to show you how 'well' she can drive. The problem is that she probably didn't check for traffic before making her little impulsive temper-tantrum move. As luck would have it, there were no other vehicles in the vicinity and your mom got away with it.
Discuss these issues with her when you aren't in a moving vehicle and refuse to ride with her, period.
2007-03-18 18:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by levitating_dog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It only takes a split second for something to go wrong when you are driving and you have had a very scary experience. Your mom was definitely driving recklessly and yes you could have died if she had hit the concrete. It is a worry that she would take such a risk. Talk to your mother about why she was so angry and see if she is upset about something else. If she continues to act in a way that could harm herself, you or anyone else you need to talk to a responsible adult. If you are not comfortable with talking to another family member try the counsellor at school, a pastor, or your doctor. Remember this incident so that when you are behind the wheel of a car you are aware of your responsibility to drive with care at all times.
Now that you have become aware of how precious life is perhaps you could volunteer some of your time to making someone else's life more enjoyable. See if there is a community program where you could visit the elderly at a seniors home and perhaps read to one or two of them. Your school may have a program where you can help another student who is having difficulty with one of his/her subjects. Help in the library and while your at it read about other countries, the incredible animal world, or the amazing things people have accomplished. Your life will become even more precious and enjoyable the more you give of yourself. Have fun and share your smile.
2007-03-18 18:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by tuxedocat 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-01 03:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by guyden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs immediate psychiatric intervention. That type of behavior is totally out of character and she needs immediate help. You should discuss this with your father; your lives may well depend upon it.
2007-03-18 23:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chances are there was no real danger to your precious life, just imaginary one. It is really good you realize your life is precious, now try to realize that others' lives are precious, too - your mom's including. And don't waste your and her lives on criticizing her, try to love her instead
2007-03-18 18:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Misha 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
YES, it sounds like she is close to a total breakdown to me.
(I am no expert, however) You had better start watching what you say, and ask your father to get her into therapy. If YOU suggest it, it will only make her worse. If she's blaming YOU for her problems with her husband, she's in denial.
2007-03-19 00:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Trump 2020 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alright, first thing you do right now. Watch "Fight Club". Lesson learned, do not criticize someone who is driving. I bet your mother got the idea from Fight Club.
2007-03-18 17:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Spam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋