I am a mother needing help with my 2 year old on potty training?

Question

I have a two year old boy that will not for the life of me potty in the potty when it comes to the #2 I have done every thing i can think of and he still will not go in the potty. I have spanked him set him on the potty for 30 min every time, put him in time out and i have given up he is almost three HELPPPPPPPPPP

Answer 1

Ok, i know how frustrating potty training is ..i have done it six times! So i don't want to criticize but spanking him will not help it will just make it worse.
You can do all the usual stuff, but what i found worked best was
(A) make potty time fun! Have books, little toys , sing silly songs,chat,and keep a CD player(with his fave kids music ) close for him to listen to while waiting for something to happen! It can take a while for them (to 'do it on Que' so make the wait fun!
(B) Don't make each sitting too long! More regular,well timed short sittings works better!
(C) let him decorate his potty, use stickers permanent markers glitter pens what ever..just let it be his own creation!
If its your loo just use stickers!)
(D) Simple star charts that he can understand... with a reward at the end of each day (as he is so young, don't do the week)you don't have to give a material reward if you don't like to bribe, use a play-date with a friend, an extra story at bed time whatever is special to him!
(E) remember that there are hardly any adults that are still not potty trained, and he will get there!
(F)Eventually you will get through this too and wonder what all the fuss was for!
Good luck Mummy!
Sorry for all the nasty replies you have gotten...you were just doing your best, so ignore them!

Answer 2

All though you are trying to help spanking him and forcing him to sit there might not be helping. I have 4 kids and believe me they all train in there own time. My son was the most difficult, he hated the very thought of sitting on the thing. After trying everything I could think of I just decided that maybe he wasn't ready yet. I left the potty we had bought for him in the bathroom and every time he had to be changed i reminded him that if he did that in the potty it wouldn't be so gross, he wouldn't be sitting in it but never forced him to use it. We aloud him in the bathroom so he could see that Mommy and Daddy used the potty. One day he just came running out of the bathroom yelling for me to come see, and sure enough he had used his potty all by himself. We celebrated for a bit and finally let him put his big boy undies on and he only had 2 accidents after that. I guess what I'm trying to say is when he is ready he'll know, the pressure might just make him hate it more. I've heard that boys are harder to train than girls and i agree so maybe just give him some time and make using the potty an option for now, don't give up just let him do it because he wants to do it. Good luck

Answer 3

I really think the worst thing anyone can do when trying to toilet train a toddler is punish them for not doing it. i think it would just put them off and probably make them more scared of a situation they are already possibly scared of. Does your son understand what the potty is used for? Has he ever watched mum or dad use the potty? That is how i taught my daughter to go to the toilet and i am teaching my son the same way. Do u have a toddler toilet seat over the big toilet seat? He might be afraid of falling in especially if he has to spend so much time sitting on it if he is trying to do a #2. Maybe offer him rewards and treats when he uses the toilet properly rather than punishment when he doesnt. He is more likely to want to do something if he will feel good about it. Encourage your son and show him how proud you are of him when he does the right thing. If u have literally tried everything, maybe u could take him to a child health nurse or something similar and see if they can offer some suggestions as to how to get him trained.Remember every child is different and we cant push them and force them to do something they are just not ready for. Dont compare him to other children and you might not get so frustrated when he wont do what he is 'meant' to do. Best of luck with ur family.

Answer 4

I would just back off for now, he is probably reacting to the pressure. Offer him a reward for using the potty to poop, like a sticker. Put the reward in a place that he can see (the living room is good because he will see it as he plays) but keep it ot of reach. Then don't say a word about it except to praise him if he does it. In a couple of weeks, if he doesn't do it himself, go back to reminding him to try. Instead of becoming frustrated (I know its hard) act like you are really sad that you can't give him a sticker when he goes in his pants. Invite older friends and relatives (kids ages 4-9ish) over to play, don't mention the potty-training, just their presence can give him a little incentive. Some kids are just stubborn, this is his to learn, not yours to teach. You will have to defer to his choice in this. I promise, he will not need to be changed before his high school graduation, he will choose to do it eventually.

Answer 5

he may not be ready to accomplish that task just yet. hes comfortable doing it in his diaper that it is totally odd for him to do it in the potty, if and when he does do it reward him with something everytime to make him aware that this is a good thing and a normal thing. i know this is gross but let him be in the bathroom when you go #2 and let him see that you do it and anyone else living at home let him know that its okay and mommy does it and then flush it and tell it "bye bye" and then reward your self with whatever you would have given him. he just need to get out of his comfort zone and see that its really okay. also go to the store and let him pick out his own big boy underpants and tell him that they cant get dirty or they go in the trash. but please do not spank or yell or punish that will only make it worse and prolong the whole potty training thing. my mom spanked my sister everytime she #2'd in her pants and made her wash them by hand in the toilet and i kid you not still today at 16 she still has problems going #2 in the toilet because we all yelled and made fun of her when she was younger. that is the all time worst thing you could ever do to your child when they are learing something new.

Answer 6

Please, donnot spank him because he doesnot potty yet the #2 or for that matter the # 1. Every child is different. I was spanked, and I dispise my Mom now. I remember every time I got hit/spanked. I am very normal, but the truama I feel now because of spanking has lasted forever. Give him time. I gave my son a reward every time he pottied on the bowl. I was a single Mom, and it was difficult, but presistance pays off. Make a game out of it, and reward him every time he does it correct. Ask a professional what to do to help you out, but donnot spank. It can make it worse!

Answer 7

Please do not spank you child for not going on the potty. My son is 4 and is just now getting the hang of it. When I took him to the doctors, they weren't even concerned. They said boys sometimes take longer. Just be patient with him. My god he is only 2. When he is ready you wll know.

Answer 8

you get more flies with honey.... he needs to know he's going to get a reward... some ideas.... take a shoe box and buy some cheap toys; stickers, etc from the dollar store, and tell him he can pick a prize everytime he goes #2 on the potty.... worked like a charm for mine :)

PS- when he finally does it for the first time, you have to make the BIGGEST deal out of it...lots of clapping, etc... it will do wonders for his esteem and let him know how excited you are that he did it.

Answer 9

Are you serious!!!!! You SPANKED him for not doing #2's in the potty. Anyone who punishes a child for that must be off their rocker. You obviously haven't read any material on the subject so I would suggest this is the first place to start.
It is very common for children of that age not to want to do a #2 in the potty, especially if you are punishing him. It will take time and LOTS of POSITIVE encouragement.
I'm still in shock that you hit your child for this reason.The mind boggles!!! Google Potty Training and read and stop hitting your child!!!

Answer 10

Yeah, OK. Beat your kid and have him associate that with the potty. So when he grows up he will have major issues with going number two for the rest of his life.

What the heck is wrong with parents today. Why is the answer always violence. Your sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ask someone else to potty train your kid, maybe a grandparent or aunt/uncle so he can have a chance at a normal life!