My son is 2 and very naughty, please help?

Question

HI all,

My son is 2 and is always doing naughty things, getting told off and doing it again. Drives me crazy sometimes cause im pregnant and hormones are raging.

Tried naughty chair, taking toys away, wont work, any suggestions?

Next is yelling in shopping centres! Not tantrums but yelling at the top of his lungs, mama, dada nana. If i say stop yelling obv he does it more!! Any suggestions?

Answer 1

My daughter is also two so I know what your going through. This is also why I am stopping at one child. I love her very much but I know my limit. God made mommies like you with more control and patience than I have.
I love some the answers from spanking to ignore them. I have done all the above it depends on both of our moods at the time. Ignoring them when she tried or just woke is better since I am also cranky at these times. Then she gets told no with a warning. Then the time out . After two to three time outs it is then a spanking. By going in this order there are few time outs and even fewer spanking. She does only receive one warning however never make the warning without immediate action. Even at two she knows when mommy or Dada says no she will be punished the next time.
I don't think saying no or the occasional spanking will destroy your child emotionally for life, but sometimes just distracting them goes a long way. Some say never bribe your child but even a lollipop when you see that they are about to have a major meltdown will help. At two I see this as a distraction rather than a bribe. Good luck, God Bless, and this to shall pass. Best wishes on your new one.

Answer 2

A star chart works wonders...at 2 my daughter has the following "Big Girl JOBS" I say jobs and she thinks it is so important...we also have a 8 week old preemie who shouldn't have born for another three weeks so we have been there.....

Her jobs are to take her bath and wash her hair (without any drama) to put her pillows on her bed every morning, to put her dirty clothes in the laundry, and to be sweet and mind. Every time she grumbles, has a full on hissy fit, or is other wise naughty, I say, you won't get your happy star...and she usually does what she is asked...we make the start chart every week, draw the pictures of what her jobs are that week, and make a big production at the end of the day about putting her stars on her chart.....at the end of the week, she gets to go to the dollar store and pick a treat......

And the other thing we do, since I always feel like I am saying no, is every few weeks on a saturday we have a yes day. During the week, if she wants to paint while I am making dinner, go outside when it is raining, get every bit of candy from the checkout line, or whatever else I am saying no to, I say let's save it for our yes day. When the yes day rolls around, we have so much fun...we wake up and sat its a yes day!!!!! We have watched the same movie many times in a row....we have had cookies for breakfast, we have jumped in puddles, and take time to do the really fun things that they always seem to ask when we are in a hurry......

Timeout didn't work for us, we still try......taking stuff away didn't work, begging her to stop didn't work......but tell her you are going to take a happy star and it does work!!!!!! Start small and make a huge deal of good behaviour and I bet it will help a bit....

Good luck!!!!!

Answer 3

The only thing that i can tell you to do is every time that he does something that he is not suppose to do is spank him every time know matter were you are at. If you are in public go to the bathroom I was in the same place. I had a 2 year old and pregnant and i went to the doctor for a check up he went with me and she gave me this advice and at first i said i can't but then after a month i tried it and it works and hopefully it will work for you.

Answer 4

Are you sure that he is naughty or could it be that you are too stressed and can not deal with a 2 year old? At 2 they are very trying and being pregnant could be wacking your hormones in a bad way.Just work with him and after the baby Im sure you will see he was acting like a normal 2 year old all the time.

Answer 5

Does not sound like unusal two-year old behavior...Try to get as much support from others as possible, get rest and don't stress, terrible two's will soon pass. The only suggestion I have is do not give empty threats. If you threaten something follow through. Unless of course it's a crazy hormone threat like, you will never ever be able to play outside again. Explain later that you did not mean never, ever.
Also, please don't feel guilty for laying on the couch as you watch him eat peanut butter straight out of the jar, still in his Pajamas at 3 in the afternoon instead of teaching him to read... Happy pregnancy!

Answer 6

Patience. Patience. Patience.He is in a very fast moving developmental place. He is learning that he has opinions, and that sometimes they are different than mommys. He is experimenting with all the ways of speaking, yelling, and singing that he sees and hears others do. This is natural and normal and a sign that your kids brain is developing.
Punitive actions might increase his behavior because it begins a power struggle. Try to redirect him, talk to him nicely, using positive words. I just taught my 2 year old about "shhhh" I gently put my finger up to my mouth and smile, then give the shhh sound if shes being really loud. she then smiles and does the same thing. I also talk to her about whispering and make it fun. I think that kids get bored if you dont talk to them, so maybe if you keep a dialogue going with him, then he wont want to randomly yell.
The book "positive discipline"helped me a lot. I have raised 2 boys through their 2s and have a 2 yr old daughter right now. Its a huge challenge, but he will grow out of it. It helps to just have a sense of humor and understand that almost everyone went through the terrible twos.
I cant believe all the people advocating violence by hitting! That is a sign of a lack of parenting skills, and patience. By the way, it usually doesnt work, and if it does, it teaches them to fear their parents and resent their power. I know from experience that one can get the same results without smacking hands and butts!

Answer 7

In certain situations, just ignore him. The more he has your attention (even when you're telling him "no" or "stop" it's still attention), the more he'll do it. He definitely needs to learn to say he's sorry, but you'll have to be persistant. It won't be easy to remind him you're the parent & in control, not him. Before you go out, try telling him the behavior you expect & if he throws a fit, that there is punishment when you get home. Find what his most favorite thing is: that's what you use as punishment. ( for example, my daughter LOVES horses & has alot of toy horses. If she breaks a rule, she isn't allowed to play with them for a few days. I pack them in a box and remove them from her room. It really catches her attention as to the fact that I'm serious about her behavior, but remember they're kids and some things are to be expected.) At his age, it will be alot of being firm with your disciplining. If you say something like"you're going in time out", and then you don't go through with it, you're not teaching him consequences to his actions. Everyone has to learn that, whether it's good consequences or bad consequences. Reward him when he does something good. (good consequences) He's still just a baby to me, but he still has to learn "what mommy says, is what we do". Good Luck!

Answer 8

I don't have any suggestions I would like to know the same answer. Mine is almost 2 and I have a 4 month old. Mine screams in the stores as well. I have tried everything, I watch nanny 911. Friends, doctors and family members say its there 2's You can try all you want but not much will work. I am started to believe them. I wish it was much easier then it is. Sorry i couldn't help. Although I need help myself.

Answer 9

Do you know why God made the palm of your hand with a little curviture to it? and why a butt is curved? put the two of them together and they fit perfectly together like a puzzle. God made us that way for a reason, you need to spank him everynow and then to let him know that he cant do that. i know it sounds terriable to some people but your child has your button and he knows how far he can push it. by letting him do this he will just keep it up until you do something about it. a little spank on the butt and a sit on the couch never hurt anyone. but you have to be firm and not let him get away with it or it will happen everytime you go out. and if you need to take him to a public bathroom be sure to go behinde the bathroom stall. also try getting sown at his level and telling him in a firm voice that what he is doing is wrong. hold him tightly by the arm and look him in the eyes and be firm. and remember that his butt is cushioned by the diaper so it doesnt hurt but it sure scares them and they realize that mommy means business

Answer 10

More than likely, your son is jealous of his upcoming sibling. He probably isn't getting as much attention from you as he was before you were pregnant. (I have a 2-1/2 yo son and a 6 mo son. My 2.5 yo is now having more trouble dealing with the lower level of personal attention from Mommy.) Here are my suggestions:

First off, I know that it is very hard, but try to be as patient with him as possible. (But, don't let him get away with too much more than normal or you will have a harder time getting him to behave better after the baby is born and things are closer to normal again.)

Second, make sure that you spend as much time as you can giving him your UNDIVIDED attention. He needs to feel like he isn't being replaced, but will now have a special title to add to who he is. He needs lots of snuggles and cuddling with words of encouragement to let him know how much you love him. If you can create a special time to spend with him (like putting him to bed at night) that will let him know that the baby might be taking time from him, but that he is still your baby, that will help.

Third, try to catch him being good! Stickers work great. Get a piece of paper (we cut out a car shape to put my son's on) and put it on the refrigerator. Anytime that you catch him being good, give him a little sticker (like the stars you use to get as a kid) to put on his paper. And, being good doesn't have to be a "wow!" good, just that he wasn't being bad. Sometimes, if you can find something little that he was doing good during a "naughty" time to give him a sticker for, it will turn his attitude around. Try to focus on the positive things that he does to help encourage him to make better choices.

Fourth, when he misbehaves, he is doing it for your attention. I know that it is hard (believe me! And, it seems undoable quite often), but simply put him on the naughty chair if you are at home and ignore him. Keep putting him back. If you are out, then just tell him that you are sorry that he choose to misbehave and they he must feel embarrased that you are now having to go home as he isn't behaving and then leave. If he misbehaves (my son loves to shop, so this is works for him) at the store, he has to stay at home with someone else the next time while you go alone.

Fifth, you can't give him lots of chances to correct his behavior. If you do, you are asking him to try and push your buttons to see how many times that he can do something before he gets in trouble. Consistancy is key. Not the easiest thing and it isn't a quick fix. I know that when I am better about not only giving one warning (or none, depending on the offense), my son behaves alot better!

Sorry, that I don't have any quick fix answers, but maybe it will help! Good luck!!