Does this sound like OCD to you?

Question

I feel that i obsess over everything my boyfriend does. Everytime he says something, I read a million other things into it. Everytime he leaves and goes somehwere without me, I think hes doing someting I wouldnt like. It doesnt matter if hes going to the store for bread- and is gone the right amount of time- he is still goin to rendezvous with "HER" and i dont even know who HER is. When he says something- whether in esponse to my questions or just out of the blue or in normal conversation- i think he is lying to me. in fact I am convinved he is. We are broken up right now and I still cant stop doing these things. I try everything I know of to stop doing them but they persist. We've had our problems, but we still love each other. I have been diagnosed with bi-polarism and chronic depression. Thats why i was wondring if maybe- even just some- of this was my mind working overtime and being neruotic?I have been like this since we got together- and we ended uo breaking up after 6 months

and two weeks later were back together. We had been together for almost 4 years at this point and we have a son together. he is 7 months old. If this is some kind of disorder I need to know so that I can keep it from affecting his life and mine too. Im scared that this will affaect all furure relationships since I also dont trust most anyone else and think that most of what they say is lies. (no im not paranoid....at least not like that). It hurts me to put myself and loved ones through my bullshit if its only in my mind. I feel like im am going to totally lose it altogether if dont figure out whats going on and get help- or at least do what needs to be done.

also, since we broke up, I still think every word out of his mouth is either a white lie or a big lie, and i obsess over what hes doing and where hes been (we still live together- seperate rooms and all now though- for the kids sake)

Ive always had this problem- and not just with him. its with many many people. i think most anything im told is a lie, or at least a way of directing me away fromthe truthof whats going on. i know i have a problem, i cant afford to go see a doctor or anything. i dot want to ask for edicl assistance. I dont know what to do dammit!

Answer 1

It's not OCD. I would recommend therapy, it sounds like your just obsessed with thinking that hes cheating on you, which isn't too healthy for you, him, or your son.

Answer 2

Obsession and OCD are two different things. I think you may be obsessed with him and it sounds to me like you might need counseling. The Bi-Polar may have a little to do with it, but don't blame that for your obsessing about this guy. If you know you cannot trust him and question everything he does or says, then maybe you should just leave him alone and let him see your son without you being around....Move on with your life!

Answer 3

For the sake of your own happiness and your son's well being, I would strongly recommend therapy. I think you have major insecurity issues that have led to this jealous, possessive and obsessive behavior. Sounds like you also have trust issues. These can be worked through with a counselor. You may never be able to have a happy and healthy relationship if you don't resolve this.

Answer 4

you have a kid together? all that breaking up and getting back together is going to mess up any relationship you have with him. get some help, and stay away from him for a while. talk to your doctor, and see if there is any way that he can help. for your child's sake, you need to be on good terms with this guy, but it doesn't mean you need to be WITH him. i doubt it's OCD, but don't depend on your diagnosis of bi-polar and depression to be your crutch. you could be just jealous, and need meds for your illness. if you are on the meds, and are still feeling this way, then it might be just jealousy. talk about it.

Answer 5

umm, well, it sounds like ur controlling, and the bi-polar and depresion can do that to u...