She said she woke up and had no clothes on, and there was a used condom on the floor...She KNOWS I don't like her drinking, and I feel it was partly her fault for drinking, but NOT her fault for getting raped..(If in fact that is considered rape correct?) I feel all funny and sick inside, and she was drunk the next day and called me a few times and said some things that really hurt, then she called me tonight and is really regretful/sad/sorry about the whole situation, and I'm so confused...I love her but yet I don't and I feel like she's the only one who could ever care for me...She won't turn the guy in either, she doesn't want to get the family in trouble (apparently it was her friends brother that "did the deed")...Should I even get back with her? She says she loves me, and I believe it, but I feel completely different towards her now...I kinda do love her...but knowing someone else had his way with her bothers me...What the hell should I do? I'm so confused. (Suicide NOT an option
2007-03-18 17:11:22 · 11 answers · asked by A7X_45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump her a s s if she did it once she`ll do it again
then go and find somone better
2007-03-18 17:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by oldjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. I think that u could just be sapportive of her.. I think that she should go get tested for STD's and all that other stuff.. But If she was drinking, and this happened, maybe this will stop her from drinking.....
IF I was her, i would have confronted the guy who did this to her, and ask him what happend... and why he took advantage of her like that..and who cares if he gets in trouble? if he cared anything about the conciquesneces of his actions then he would not have done this in the first place..
.. just remember rape is not about sex, it is about power...
It sounds like her drinking has a big part of her actions, on how she feel about life. If she is going to say hurtful things to u, when she is drunk, then either dont drink, or not that much.
If she cared about u at all, she would listen to you. a relationship takes 2 people.. not just one doing all the work!
good luck!
2007-03-18 17:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by nastymix1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a little time to cool off and calm down. She didnt mean it and you know that. I almost had the same thing happen to me, and it was quite scary. But it is the guys fault for having sex with her. You realy some time to think and be honest about your own feelings. Dont make a mistake, be sure before you act. I realy hope you two can stay together, because otherwise she will hate herself for quite along time, and you may develop trust issues with women. Best of luck, and i'm sorry you have to deal with such a horible thing.
2007-03-18 17:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by sasukechaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be talking this out with someone you respect and trust, rather than asking for advice from people you don't know online. There are some situations where a more seirous approach is needed. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-18 17:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, praise yourself for setting suiside aside, because this is nothing to get all worked up about. Sit down and talk to her, because she will most likely understand. If not, you can't say that U didn't try!
2007-03-18 17:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by SweeterThanSugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes playing you like a fiddle boy
2007-03-18 17:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by THESHAFT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first all all she need to be honest with this she has a serious
problem with drinking. and she need to get help for this,
other wise this willl continue to happen. and if you love
her then you need to let her know that this behavior you
will accept anymore. as for the situaiton, im sorry that
it happen.but trouble with this is she does not know
what happen that the trouble with alchol.
2007-03-18 17:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A real woman doesn't put herself in that situation in the first instance. Your choice bud, words for thought: LUST IF YOU MUST, ONLY LOVE WHEN IN TRUST.
2007-03-18 17:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by s.truden 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back to her.
No matter how much you want to.
I know how you feel.
Same thing happened to me.
I got a saying i live by.
Hurt me once, shame on you,
Hurt me twice, shame on me.
2007-03-18 17:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by AngelOfDeathIx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, if she can't keep her pants on when she parties or turn the guy in for rape (if it really was?)... this will definately happen again...
2007-03-18 17:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋