My husband of ten years has on his best days been "disinterestes". I've tried every trick in the Cosmo book. Nothing seems to work. Last night (a Saturday night) I tried being agressive. He smiled, and said he was tired.
I'm thinking of having an affair. Is that a bad idea? I've hung in there with his disinterest for 10 years.
2007-03-18 17:04:43 · 7 answers · asked by SunnyMoon 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are reasonably attractive, keep yourself fairly neat and clean, then the problem is definitely him. Get into counsellling or you could end up in the front page of the newspaper.
Some people I knew from work were having problems, several friends warned them to go to therapy. She went out and found a lover. He found out and shot both of them. Is that how you want to end up?
If he won't go to therapy with you, then you go without him.
2007-03-18 17:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an affair isn't a good idea.. it could seriously ruin your reputation and everything else forever. Even your family will look at you differently if anyone finds out. And there is a really good chance you will feal guilty. Talk to your husband mention to him how you feel ask him if this is what you both really want. maybe a divorce is what you need. you will be free and have a new start. an affair is sneaky and will not help anything.
2007-03-19 00:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not too strange--millions of men go through this---but don't you even consider the cheating thing--go to a doctor--have your hubby checked---sugar problem is almost always the culprit---and the lack of performance is covered with excuses. My guess is years of crummy food--whether you made it or not---food additives, MSG, alcohol, starch, sugars--all make hubby a non-performer. Change the diet for a month--really try hard to eat better--and he'll come around. He needs to try to eat healthier---you do it too-- it's more fun together. Good luck and don't be too pushy
2007-03-19 00:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that he is not satisfying your feminine needs and that the relationship you have with him is not that of husband and wife. That if he has something physically wrong with him, you will make him a doctor's appointment. p.s., I'd probably just go on and make an appointment with my lawyer and hire an investigator. Sounds like he's getting his satisfaction elsewhere.
2007-03-19 00:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lois M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an affair. That's cheap. Try communication with your hubby. If that doesn't work, try counselling with or without him...
2007-03-19 00:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by carq31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just divorce rather than going outside the marriage if you are unhappy?
2007-03-19 00:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by proud2btysmom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"handle yourself" while your in bed together, if he doesnt get the idea, bring the UPS guy to bed with you, see if that gets his attention
2007-03-19 00:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by intimadatein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋