My step father (who I call Dad) passed away and I have a brother and then a step brother and step sister. My brother and I had the same mother and my stepfather was like my real father. My mother and him were married for 40 years before she died. The step brother and step sister's mother and my dad were married for short period of time. My brother and I were left majority of inherientence and now my step brother and step sister aren't speaking to us which hurts. Dad did this because he felt they didn't come around often enough. Also, half of his money was our mom's money. They think we should share our wealth with them. What is the right thing to do in this situation?
2007-03-18 16:53:29 · 9 answers · asked by Lockformer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you want to? If you feel obligated, share a little and keep the rest for yourself. They will only get greedy if they find out how much you inherited.
2007-03-18 16:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your step-father wanted them to have the money, he would have put them in his will. He took the time to draft and leave a will, which is more than many people do, so you should honor it. It doesn't matter what they think. They should have done what your dad wanted them to do; they didn't. They have no right to bully you. If they get upset with you and don't come around, will that really be much different than when your dad was alive? I have no respect for people who think they are owed something when they didn't earn it.
Be strong. Your step-dad trusted that you would carry out his wishes. .
2007-03-19 00:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to that. But do you care enough about each other to continue the relationship after they get money? Or are they going to fade off in the distance and not be a part of your life anymore. Were you four close at any time? If they have always been distant to you then I see no need to go against your Dad's wishes and include them. But if they wanted to be a part of the family and your Dad pushed them away or kept them at a distance then maybe it would be fair to give them a small bit of money to show good intentions on your part. Good Luck.
2007-03-19 00:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what your parents intentions were before they died. If they left the money this way it was for a reason. It does put you in an ackward situation, but you are only doing as you were told and given. Besides are they going to share the wealth their mom leaves them when she dies. My guess is probably not. Don't let them make you feel bad, if they can't accept it then they are greedy and don't need to be in your life.
2007-03-19 00:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by cat12 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there wasn't anything left for the step kids by your father, then that's that. However if they got something out of the inheritance, they're only displaying their true selves to you and your brother by not communicating. Greed is a strange accomplice. To give is entirely up to you and how you feel about them. I personally would not. Since they're not talking anyway, they won't be missed. They'll get over it one day.
2007-03-19 00:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you and your brother got from your dad and mom, is yours, not belonging to the step brother/sister. It's yours. If they choose not to communicate with you and your brother-that is their problem, not yours. I have a step sister too. There was a portion of money that came to me, I didn't have to share it with her, and because I saw in her at that time, greediness, I'm glad I didn't. I wish you and your brother the best. Take care.
2007-03-18 23:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is why he left you guys more,and no I would not share I see your step fathers point of view,I have a step daughter who never comes around.It goes to show when money is involved you find out your true friends.I hate it for you but do what you feel is right.
2007-03-19 00:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by billieleann78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your step-father's wishes. His Last Will and Testament is the one way in which he could ensure the "objects of his affection" were recognized. You are very lucky to have been so well thought of my him.
2007-03-18 23:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lois M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe you should call them to break the ice, when they come around and speak with you tell them that it wasn't your decision to just get your brother and yourself the majority of the money it was your fathers and you had nothing to do with it.
2007-03-18 23:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by brutus maximus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋