Was I wrong to do this?

Question

An ex and I ended things very badly. We we were very close. it was special. However, something happened and he became very cold and hrtful to me. Much was involved including a child he had with someone else, before we met. I helped him thru much of this. Anyhow, we exchanged hurtful words and have not spoken in over a month or so. I didn't expect him to call me, although I hoped he would. But everyday, it ate at me, the things I said to him and the way I behaved. So tonight, I called him and I got his voice mail. I left him a message and told him that I was sorry, and that no matter what, as a friend, I only wanted him to be happy and I should have backed away, knowing a child was involved. I will admit he was wrong about much, but there was much confusion involved. I dont know what he thinks, but I feel a sense of relief. Was I stupid? Should I not have called? I also said that I don't expect to hear from him and its ok. And I think I will be, if I never hear from him again. I just

wanted him to know and understand where I was coming from. After all, I am human.

Answer 1

You did the right thing. You can't close a chapter of your life unless you finish that chapter. You took the first step to finishing the chapter. You were the bigger person. It took gutts and balls! You have bigger balls than he does. There's is nothing you can do at this point besides live. THe ball is in corner! You did the right thang GIRL!

Answer 2

You were not wrong to do this at all! I actually think it makes you the bigger person admitting you shouldn't have done some of the stuff you did, not many people do this! You should feel good about yourself what you did was probably really hard to do but you still did it! Hopefully you'll hear back from him and he'll apologize what he did to you as well. Best of luck:)

Answer 3

girl u was crazy to get into sumthin like dat if a man has a child and he takin care of dat child he is not gonna leave his child but dont let that break u down juss watch a tyler perry stage play like madea goes to jail or i can do bad all by my self hang in there and or contact me @ [e-mail] for more

Answer 4

If that's what you felt that you needed to do for closure, then no one can tell you that what you did was wrong. You knew you were wrong for some of the things that you said, and I feel that you are the bigger person for admitting that you were at fault as well.

Answer 5

You care for him it's only natural that you are having a rough time letting go.
If he hasnt called you I think he is getting on fine without you tho.
You are going to have to just be strong & let go.
I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

I think you were correct to do this. There is no sense in leaving a relationship on bad terms, especially if it has been bothering you. I think you are a big hearted person for doing this.

Answer 7

Good for you! You resolved your feelings the way you needed too and now you are ready to move forward. Sometimes you just have to say your peace before you can let it go.

Answer 8

No you did the right thing, its just up2 him now if he wants to do the same favour in return and call you.

Answer 9

That's all you can do is apologize whether he calls or not is up to him you did your part and all you can do now is move on.

Answer 10

actually it sounds wonderful that you did this. we all get out of line sometimes. it just takes courage to do what you did.