I love my boyfriend a lot, but my mom thinks I need higher standards and it's not fair!!! : [ I don't want to seem like a spoiled brat because I'm complaining it's not fair but it isn't. My boyfriend is Puerto Rican and I'm caucassion/ white whatever you want to call it, but since I'm going to college and he might not she worries for me. Theres one thing you don't know I'm sixteen and he's eighteen so we're still young doesn't that make a difference? I hate it that my mom said I need higher standards because I'm so successful and I don't need someone to get in the way of that because I take voice lessons and I want to pursue a career becoming an Opera singer. My mom brought this conversation up twice about needing to have higher standards, but the thing I don't get is she said he's cute, polite and considerate but I still need higher standards can you help me on this topic?
2007-03-18 16:13:04 · 14 answers · asked by Blue eyed girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a mother of FOUR teenage daughters I can give you a little insight into your mom. She loves you and does not want you to make a life choice on a mate at your age. Being a teenager is a wonderful thing.It is a time to learn about how to be in a relationship, learning how to be a grown-up. But at the same time being 16 sucks. You feel as if the world is against you and all your choices, you feel as if this boy is going to love you more than anyone ever could. Your Mom is trying to protect you not hold you back, she wants you to experience life before you settle down and become an adult, she is probly also afraid of you giving yourself to this boy and having a baby, that would mean the end of most of your dreams because if you have a child your dreams end and you only want a good future for your own child , sacrificing your own dreams, ... Remember your mom loves you and would not strive for you to have a better life if she did not care .... good luck sweety....
2007-03-18 16:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool it with the defensive anger - she wants you to have THE best in life, that of course includes the best GUY possible. You really can't fault her for that!!! HOWEVER, it would be nice if she were to EXPLAIN exactly what she means when she says that!!!! She must know what she's thinking - - when you both are in calm approachable moods, ASK her in a non-confrontational way to please explain what she means by "higher standards".
2007-03-18 23:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice other than following your heart is this: Tell your mom how you feel, and ask her if her parents approved of your father, or the other people she may have dated. Times change, but parents will always want better for their children.
2007-03-18 23:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by jhostman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie called Daddy's Little Girls. Once you watch that movie then you will know the answer! You love him? Does he treat you right? Well, don't be no fool! Love is all you need. He's polite and he ain't cheating? If your mom don't want you with then pass him to me!!! I'm successful too, but I am smart enough to know love don't grow on trees!
2007-03-18 23:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother just wants what is best for you. she dose not wanna see you get hurt later on down the road.because some guys play with women feelings and hearts.your mother is scared for you to make a mistake in life with a guy.but we have to take risk getting are hearts broken by a guy or not getting are hearts broken. in order to find out which guy loves us.
2007-03-18 23:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Carebear22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if your higher standerd what matters is that you guys love each other thats what matters the most.your mom needs to understand that you really like this guy so much,
2007-03-18 23:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by divinarose1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its clear that you know what you want. your mother should be supportive of you in all circumstances, so tell her that youre tha one that pilots your own life and who you choose to be with. youre a smart girl and know right from wrong. if this feels right to you then continue doing what you wan to do. . parents will eventually level with you. be willing to compromise. and point out all his great characteristics.goodluck
2007-03-18 23:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
parents always want what's best for their children but who you date is your thing don't worry about your mom he's dating you and not her. if you decide to get serious with him in the near future she will adjust
2007-03-18 23:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SHE ONLY WANTS WHATS BEST FOR YOU. IF YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND ARE SERIOUS ABOUT EACH OTHER SHE WILL EVENTUALLY SEE THAT HE IS GOOD FOR YOU AND YOU ARE HAPPY. DONT NOT GO TO COLLEGE IF HE DOESN'T AND HIM SUPPORTING YOU GOING WOULD MORE THAN LIKELY CHANGE YOUR MOTHERS VIEW OF HIM.
2007-03-18 23:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him that shouldn't get in the way of what your mommy tells you it's not her who is dating this guy.
2007-03-18 23:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Ben 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋