Is it wrong to marry an atheist...my fiance is confused about religion and God. He isnt against it. While I know I cant change him and MAKE him see the light, I pray he does, and I encourage him. I know I can only protect my own soul, so does that mean I can marry him. But if ya look at it like "would God want me to marry someone who doesnt love him?" the answer that comes to my mind is probably not. But will God judge me by the person I marry?
2007-03-18 16:12:59 · 7 answers · asked by french_miester 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Doesn't the fact that you're worried about this seem like a little hint that there's something wrong with your religious beliefs?
An atheist is not someone who hasn't "seen the light". As long as you think that, you frankly don't deserve this person. You may agree to disagree, but if you think there's something wrong with his position, you'd better take a closer look at your own.
2007-03-18 16:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am an atheist.
I am married to a Filipina who is a BA Christian.
I drive her to her place of worship and pick her up afterwards.
Religion does not enter our house.
She is of an age where it is probably too late to talk sense into her about religion. I have tried but stopped when it became obvious that I was getting nowhere.
Her daughter, 23 yo, is a different story. Yes, she was influenced by her mother and was a BAC also until we had some long talks and now I have scored a convert.
Essentially, religion does not come between us all. I figure that as long as her beliefs make her happy then I'm fine with her having her delusions.
She accepts that I have different views and we get along fine. She was a little upset when she found out that her daughter had switched sides but all that quickly subsided.
Realise this.
The most important person who will be judging you is yourself and, secondarily, your fiance. Ignore any parents if you can. It's your life and not theirs. If they are understanding parents, you will be OK. If they are not ... ignore them. They do not deserve any consideration.
You will not be judged by any fictitious supernatural entity ever, so the problem then goes away. Reality sets you free.
Atheism is a wonderful lifestyle choice and it enables you to see that it is THIS one and only life that you will ever get that you should be concerned with and nothing else - as there is nothing else. Yes - reality can be a grim prospect but one learns very quickly to cope with it.
If you are open-minded yourself - and all intelligent people are open-minded - go to www.godisimaginary.com and read all there is to read. Perhaps it will set you free.
Think about the future, though. If there is a marriage and there are resultant children, what will be their fate. A life of freedom from the stupidity of religion or a life of living in a fantasy-world. This could be a decision that will be upsetting if you do not see reality before that time.
Don't forget that childhood religious indoctrination is mental abuse.
2007-03-19 01:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt God will judge you for that. If the love between the two of you is real, self giving, and based on mutual respect, then I'm sure God is fine with that. What would concern me is the more practical aspect of a person for whom faith is very important while the other isn't sure what he thinks. This may inject problems into the relationship down the road. Certainly nothing that can't be overcome through compromise, understanding, and possibly counseling, but there could be problems nonetheless. I hope the two of you make the decision that is right for you.
2007-03-18 23:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Tukiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all that matters.
I am not Christian but my husband is, and we have worked out fine. I even go to church with him. I have no disrespect for Christians, or at least the tenets of the Christian faith, so we don't have any problems. Just encourage your fiance to think about his beliefs and what makes sense to him.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 23:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kharm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being an atheist is cool, but best check he is not an American before you marry him.
2007-03-19 00:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would he not be a truly sick God to do that? If you love this guy, then why would his religion matter? He probably thinks you are as deluded as you think him confused.
2007-03-18 23:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
This is why I stayed away from anyone too religious. You should be lucky that he puts up with your delusions.
2007-03-18 23:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋