" Example "...A woman meets a guy...talks for a bit...he asks her out...she accepts as there seems to be mutual interest. One phone conversation and one date later guy asks "Why is a woman as you still single"? Woman replies "I've met some great guys...just not that special ' one ' who I feel blends with my heart". Guy replys..." Well, maybe you've met him already ?".
Is this a 'common' line for guys as this is the third time this phrase has been heard from different guys.
Maybe he is the the " one "...maybe not. Buy why would a guy make such a bold comment without the two having known each other long. . . less than one week? . . . Wondering.
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Any insight ?
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2007-03-18 16:07:42 · 5 answers · asked by onelight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Begeeman" . . . Interesting. Yet, how could any emotionally responsible man express such a thing when he and the woman barely know each. He is expressing such a comment to one that has no clue of what each others true hearts are about? It's actually a insult to the woman's intelligence that she would 'fall' for heart words as that when the guy does not even know the heart of the woman he is expressing to. Baffles me. This has happened three different times now...three different men. Is it just another of a guy's lines?
2007-03-18 16:19:28 · update #1
Your doubt is very justified!!
I have heard of men using that line...
I only have this to say..
those who know, do not speak
and those who do not know, speak!
These men reveal themselves to be ignorant... these men try and use words of love to trick a woman... look around...many are living this game... they are fast to speak words of love with no foundation and so are building a house of love illusion!
A real man will have equal interest in both the woman and himself.
A true man will only be interested in the well being of the woman (i.e. that the woman he speaks to learns about true love enabling her to find the right man)... that way he automatically takes care of himself! Do you understand?
I will explain more if you would like?
Allman sees many men :-)
2007-03-19 23:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by James 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not used that comment myself....maybe he has a strong attraction to you and feels this may spark your curiosity to go on a second date or give him another chance if he felt the next date could go even better. But it does sound as though he may have a strong interest in you. The friendship or relationship can only go as far as you let it...so even if it is just a line after a second date you should know if he is worth getting to know better
2007-03-18 23:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the line in context with other things that he says. It will all add up one way or the other. In my experience what it lacks in depth it makes up for in testosterone. Warning, don't let your attraction get the better of you or this is all poihtless!
Men who just want to get you into bed are minimally interested in who you are as long as you fit their sexual comfort zone they are set to go. These guys could end up staying by you but they tend to be the ones who are going to attempt to take charge of you at some point in the relationship. You know man's in charge right?It makes me sick. Sorry , not in my world.
It seems to be very hard for men and some women to grasp the idea of equanimity in a relationship and to support people being themselves rather than caving to patriarchial role playing. No I am not a dominering person, I just like me the way I am. I think for myself! Love it.
I have digressed...sorry.
Basically, it is to take down your defences and make you more vulnerable or to give him the benifit of the doubt...more open letting you know he is willing to take this farther to find out.
Allman almost has it right on, except for one little miscalculation. Women are much more inclined to understand and offer unconditional love and acceptance. This is why we are such suckers when it come to you guys. Many of us, surprisingly, don't need to 'learn' what love is so much as we need to find someone else that understands and manefests the depth of love we have to offer and then we decide if along with that, we are mutually right for each other.
Despair generally causes us to lower our expectations and we sucumb to less than we had hoped for in this regard...sigh. So we love the guy with all our hearts despite it all. men play on that. We know it and sometimes we go along with it, or not.
Not all women care, or say they care, about 'true' love. A friend of mine dosn't. She has her life and her romantic encounters and that's it. She's happy.
Personally I think it matters profoundly.
Do what's best for you and who you are and who you want to grow to be. These are the decisions that shape the course of our lives.
Good luck sweety.
2007-03-20 14:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's probably hoping to light the fire. you see, by suggesting it, he's hoping to open you to the possibility that he could be "The One". so, it may not be realistic, but it's an approach to open up the relationship and spark some passion. he's hoping that by bringing it up, he's giving himself a better chance to actually be the one.
2007-03-18 23:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO GET LAID.
2007-03-18 23:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by wilber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋