Why am I feeling so insecure about this guy I met and had a holiday fling with over spring break?
He is only a couple of hours away, and we've been in contact every day since I got back home. And yet, I feel like we're not clicking like we did in person. We've made no plans to possibly hang out again, and I want to see him but I don't want to be too demanding of his time or take a trip to visit 'just' him and scare him off. I really feel comfortable around him and we had amazing sex all weekend and I think it would be a wonderful thing to have another weekend like that. But, He's busy and I'm unsure how he views our short time together. And, he didn't respond to an e-mail I wrote telling him I didn't want him to think he was just a holiday fling...what do I do?
2007-03-18 15:12:26 · 6 answers · asked by foreveryoung 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about it before you pursue this issue, he may have just wanted a holiday fling without strings ?
2007-03-18 15:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,there is a possibility unfortunately,that "YOU!" were infact the holiday fling.You should really go visit.Get a hotel room,and do not allow him to know so.Tell him,"I am visiting a friend,and i was wondering if maybe youd like to hang out one night?".If he says no,or doesnt respond then you should just move on.
Generally,when a guy hooks up with a female over spring break,it is a fling.It isnt for good,not many relationships come out of it.It isnt impossible tho.Ask him casually,do not let him know the hotel you are staying at,and be mysterious.Dont give him names of family members,just casually ask.If he doesnt reply,you may want to find someone else.If you dont want just a "fling" maybe you should avoid that when going on holiday.Good luck hun,and have a good night!
2007-03-18 22:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is...maybe he thinks you are a holiday fling...don't want to hurt feelings...but maybe he doesn't have any back and maybe it was just great sex.
Back off till he shoes signs of wanting more...of anything.
Do not press the situation, take a step back and let it happen, if it is going to.
Good Luck:)
2007-03-18 22:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like to keep the relationship going, I suppose you could take time off your work and go find him instead. Surprise him at his area and maybe call him out for lunch that day. Try to spend more time with him and maybe learn more about his background etc.
2007-03-18 22:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool girlfriend. If he is interested, let him come to you. Don't give your self up so quick next time, you'll only get hurt. I hope he calls.
2007-03-18 22:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mama of 4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just use you as his sex's toy. don't easily trust a guy!
2007-03-18 22:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋