My thoughts 24/7 lately have been, am i ever going to get married and have children? I am only 21 and already I feel like my biological clock is ticking. So many acquiantences of mine are getting engaged and it's making me sad. I always beat myself up saying, if only I was skinnier, smarter, prettier, funnier, sweeter I would find a man. I have the lowest self esteem of anyone I know. I have even gone as long as two days w/o eating cuz i think I will lose weight and find a man. How does one go about raising their self esteem?
2007-03-18 15:06:15 · 6 answers · asked by Violin2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey take it from another single f/21 that you are still very young. You've got plenty of time. I know quite a few friends that have married recently ar are engaged, same thing at work. But the sooner you become comfortable with who you are the better off you are. Life's too short to be bitter or depresed. Also, confidence is more attractive than depression. So, live your life, and a guy will come, when he comes. the sooner you accept this the happier you will be.
2007-03-18 15:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amy, count your blessings. Why do so many women think that they have to have a man to be whole. You are only 21, you need to live your life and to experience things before you get tied down to a man and children. What about your future? When you get married are you planning on working, or are you just gonna get fat and be married with a bunch of snotty nosed little kids following you around and calling you Mommy. You need to concentrate on your future, what do you want to be? I would suggest one alternative, check out the Coast Guard, they will house you and train you for a career. Do you want to be a nurse, a Doctor, a Lawyer, a helicopter pilot........the options are endless and the training is free. Besides that you get to live in small little beach towns and your fellow Coasties become your family. Just a suggestion.But Please, don't feel like your left out of the loop because your 21 and haven't gotten married yet. You have so many great things ahead of you. As far as self esteem goes, the Coast Guard would help you with that too. My husband joined the Coast Guard at 17 and retired with a pension for the rest of his life at 37. If you started now, at 41 you could retire and never have to work again for the rest of your life. All the medical and college is free. Just think about it.
2007-03-18 22:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 21 too...but never feel thesame as you....,lets just wait for the right one,I know someone is mean for you and will love you for who you are and not how you do look.I still belive beuty is useless but character is the best.
2007-03-18 22:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u have plenty of time for finding a husband, in fact, if i was you - id put it off and enjoy beign young and single a while longer. go out and have fun whie u can!!!
2007-03-18 22:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by lady26 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young! Enjoy yourself.......don't want to get married just because your friends do...you will know when the time is right......
2007-03-18 22:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a club and party and maybe you'll meet your mr.right. Or get one of your friends to set you up.
2007-03-18 22:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋