Is it a turn off as im supposedly really nice but gets me knowhere fast with the women i want..
2007-03-18 14:41:02 · 18 answers · asked by John A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For some reason girls don't like really nice guys...I think it's a respect thing. Strange but true.
2007-03-18 14:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is. Women like men who are nice, but who also have a backbone somewhere. No being nice is not a turn off, but being too nice can get annoying. I've seen it happen before. If you want a certain women, be nice, but still show that you have an opinion about some things and aren't afraid to say it.
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2007-03-18 21:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Gothic Lozer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have gone from being the really nice guy to being the total dushe bag every girl says she hates. I do not get meaning full relationships but women show a lot more interest in me, before I even talk to them. You have to find the balance that works for you. It is all about how you want to attract women and which ones.
2007-03-18 21:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be a gentleman, and still be very masculine. It's when you try to give too much too soon, that most women run.
Just hold back a little. Open doors and pull out chairs for women.
Sometimes it's not you, it's the person you're with. Just relax, and enjoy your date. When the right person comes along, it will click.
Good luck.
2007-03-18 21:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. My ex used to be way too nice. He'd take everyone's problems onto himself. He'd also ask me if I was okay, even if I just frowned for a half second. If you're too nice, you can be seen as too emotional, and most girls believe in the stereotype of a strong male. Lighten up a little bit, but a little kindness can go a long way!
2007-03-18 21:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lyssepoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some women a "too nice" guy gets taken advantage of. I wouldnt say be a total jerk, but kinda step back a little and feel things out. good luck
2007-03-18 21:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, there is. before you read what i have to say, you should always be yourself. always, always, always.
that being said, being too nice allows people to walk all over you. you must be smart about your kindness. it wouldn't be very wise to let people lie and cheat you and then let them think it's okay by being too sweet.
also, some girls see super sweet guys as flirty. no one wants a guy who flirts with tons of other girls. so be nice and curteous but try not to go overboard.
one day someone will love you (and i mean LOVE you) for your excessive kindness. just don't let people hurt you and walk all over you in the meantime.
2007-03-18 21:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice if they treat you nice. Never be a sucker or a fool for anyone, including a woman. If she deserves to be treated nice and shes grateful for the things that you do, and she is in turn nice to you and fulfills your needs then you need to go all out for her to. If she doesn't, cancel her ticket and move on.
2007-03-18 21:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, John, it's my experience that there is such a thing.
If only there were more women like, Annette (the lady who answered you first. ).
2007-03-18 21:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah. unfortunately being too nice to women tends to turn them off and think the guy is gay or somehing. u need to be really agressive yet sincere with women. women are really strange but yah...too nice isnt the way to go.
2007-03-18 21:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋