Ok so I've been dating this guy for a couple months.Things have been going pretty good between us and in my eyes hes amazing.Hes opened my eyes to so many things he makes me want to be a better person.Well he didnt call me or anything all day so I msged him and turned out hes been making something for me all day.I've been witholding the goods from him cause well we're just dating and I dont want to get attached to him if I dont know if we're going to end up being together and well if I give him the goods I know I'll get attached for sure.Him making me something though just made me melt and I want him to know that.What do you guys think? Should I thank him with a kiss and a hug? Would it be better that way to make him wait longer you know make him work for it more? Or should he get the goods?
2007-03-18 14:30:34 · 11 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When somebody you care about has taken the time to do something sweet for you, a hug and kiss is just fine. Becoming intimate with someone, should not be a "payment" just cause he's being thoughtful. In terms of "giving up the goods", if the gentleman cares for you than the timing of being intimate won't matter. Being intimate, means that you have to be alright with it (no offence but you do have to take care of yourself first). If you don't feel the timings right, then don't do it, if you feel that this is a step you're ready to take than do it. But in the end you've only yourself to answer do so whatever step you take make sure it's the right one for you.
2007-03-18 14:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If youre a virgin no he doesnt deserve the goods for making you something. Even if youre not a virgin he doesnt deserve the goods for making you something.
He deserves it only if you feel its right to let him have you. Personally it sounds like you guys are going good at the rate right now, but that youre the one thats itching to get done. Give the guy a kiss and hug to let him know you appreciate it, just make sure the kiss is good.
Its not about making a guy wait and work for it, its about waiting until youre both ready, and you sound like youre ready to let er rip.
2007-03-18 21:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Thats me...A to the D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying, 'easy to get, easy to forget"
If he is for real, he can wait, he should not insist. There is a perfect time for that. Time will tell if you are really meant for each other.
That will be when both of you are emotionally mature to face the consequence of whatever you think is morally right.
2007-03-18 21:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by september 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and see what he made for you FIRST! I mean, what if he made you an ash tray or something? Ash trays don't equal "goods", as you put it.
I wouldn't give it up just because he made you something. Give it up because you LOVE him. Maybe give him a backrub or something to show him how much you appreciate whatever it is he made you. But don't "put out" because of it.
PS. You sould tell us what he made you!! I may change my answer then! LOL
2007-03-18 21:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u??
over 17 then yeah sure give him the goods. use protection.
if ur under 17 then keep the goods to urself. just give him a nice long romantic kiss
2007-03-18 21:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him the goods cuz that will make him respect u more but tell him what u told us..that his making u something made u melt. It is sooo cute!!!
Good Luck w/ everything
2007-03-18 21:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if YOURE not sure if you should give him the goods then you shouldnt. its nice of him to make you something but since hes still with you after two months of zero goods means he respects that you're making him wait a little. it shouldnt matter to him.
2007-03-18 21:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by california 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should totally invite him to an auction of the goods on e-bay.
If he bids the most, let him have the goods, provided he pays for shipping and handling.
2007-03-18 21:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by bdcanuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
You don't have sex or with-hold it for "things"
You would be better to wait becuase you said you didn't want to get attached to him.
2007-03-18 21:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol @ getting the goods,geezzzzz it kills me to see little kids come on here talking about giving sex to each other lern what to do when you've grown up some!
2007-03-18 21:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋