i am scared?

Question

my dad beats me up and my mom too. sometimes it gets really bad. i dont care if he beats me up i am used to it, but i dont want my mom to get hurt. i am scared if i call the police he will be locked up and my mom doesnt have a job we will be so poor, my dad brings home money. i dont know what to do i need help

well i dont know much about this site but i wanted to reply to your answers and say thanks.
okay the case is that my sister bothered me and she ruined my school project and i got mad and i told her to get out of my room and when she did i closed the door really fast and well it made a lot of noise. but i dont see why he should hit me really bad because i shut the door like that. i dont see is as such a bad thing. maybe i didnt do a nice thing but its not a reason to beat me up? yes, he punched me and kicked me. i was crying so hard and covering my face i could not see what he was doing to my mom, but i am sure she was very hurt. my mom didnt do anything, she was trying to protect me. you see, in our culture when we tell people that our husbands beat us everyone starts gossiping and they feel sorry for you BUT i dont really care if they do but i think my mom does. because she grew up in another country and their beliefs and opinions are not the same i lived in canada for a long time

thank you you are really helping a lot. i already know what to do...
i was really mad when i wrote that but i have to add a few things now.
i dont want my dad to be locked up, but if thats the only choice i WILL do it. thething is he can be nice too. he buys me everything i need and i like to talk to him sometimes, and he is really smart and i admire that. but i dont understand how a smart man like him could be ignorant enough to beat his wife and children. i dont know. :(

this is getting longer but..
thanks everyone. i already mailed our psychiatrist. and told him about the situation. he said i should make an appointment [and i will as soon as possible] and talk to him and my mom should too and he said he can help my dad too. i think my dad needs help with his anger management.

Answer 1

that isnt normal. if that happens so much that you are used to it, talk to a counselor or trusted adult. your dad can go to counseling and not have to go to jail. but you shouldnt let it go on. somebody could get hurt badly. try to talk to your parents but only if you want to. talk to somebody you trust and try to get your dad into counseling.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your abuse and I really, I mean I really understand d you 110%. My father use to sexual molest me and my mother beat me so bad that the state almost took me away. My GOD please get help before it get worst. I called my best friend and if not a friend a teacher or someone u trust ( I know it's hard to trust) I called the police and they did the rest. I understand that your father is the bread winner but so was my father but we managed by the grace of GOD. I know you think your alone but your not.Please think that next time you might not be home and your father could hurt or even kill your mom or you. There is alot of program to help your family live a happy life then a nightmare everyday. I live to long in hell because of the money issue's but are family did it and so can you. I have faith in you and for your mom and for your sake you can do it and the police will protect you. Money doesn't mean nothing if your mother is 6 feet under. Let me tell you something I thought the same way you did until my mother died from a blow to the head. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH it might be hard but you will be so happy and you saved your life and other who may go Thur the same problem. I will be thinking about u and praying for u. Just remember when u fall he( The Powerful one) will be there to hold you up.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU

Answer 3

You have no choice.Your mom does.She is as bad as your dad because she has stayed in this mess.There are women's shelters, and the fact she is a stay at home mom would qaulify her for alimony as well as child support.She needs to have him locked up, you need to call the law since she will not and show your dad that enough is enough.When you say he beats on you,Im assuming he punches and kicks you etc.If it is just spankings becaue you wont behave thats another matter.Him beating your mom is not spankings and he doesnt have the right to spank her anyway.It sounds like a really bad situation.Call the cops next time and have him locked up, and the 2 of you go to a shelter home and tell your mom if she will not testify against him ,your going to see about being placed in foster care.If he is willing to go to counseling afterwards, then maybe the family can be healed,I hope and pray that will be the case.

Answer 4

well sweetheart, first of all your dad has no right putting his hands on anyone especially you and your mother. you may not want your dad to be locked up, but maybe it will be for the best to be somewhere that he can get some help. you and your mother is punished every time he hits you. so now maybe its his turn to be punished by going to jail. as far as the money part, im sure that if you and your mom work together things will work out fine. it wont be easy at first. but being beat down physically also effects you mentally. you and your mother are worth more than you probably think you are. so its time you take charge of the situation if that means calling the police. you dont want any to be hurt anymore cause next time it might be bad enough that they cant recover from it. you love your father but your and your mothers life is worth more, help your mother realize this and get out of this situation. im so sorry to hear about this and i wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 5

listen, I came from froster homes before I was adopted and I've heard all the storys. I have dealt with DSS for alot of my life. You need to tell a teacher, or some adult you trust. I promise, it's worth it to make it all stop in the long run. Some family service agency around your area will get involved. The first thing they try to do is "work with the family to get the individual under control". If your father is beating you then he will be locked away, but then DSS or whatever social service will help you out. There are many welfare opp, out there for cases like this through agencys. People will help you, you just need to tell someone. - it will all work out! good luck!

Answer 6

If you don't want to call the police, then go to your school and talk to a teacher, counsler or principal, let them know what is going on. No one should ever be abused, and you should not have to be used to it. You should have to be scared either. Get help now, before he ends up killing you or your mother. Your mother can get assistance to feed the family and other things to help you meet your needs, such as shelter food and assistance in paying the household electricity bills.

Please turn your father in to someone. Good luck. Pray.

Answer 7

If you call the police they will lock your dad up if she presses charges. You can also press charges. You mom can apply for mothers allowance to support you or go to school. Or you can call the children's aide society and ask them what to do. You can talk to your teacher at school. There are womens assault crisis lines in the front of the yellow pages. Before you do anything you have to get couseling so you can get stronge enough. You need emotional help to stay stronge for you and your mom. Call assaulted womens help lines if you need to talk to someone at anytime of day or night. Take care Heather

Answer 8

I know this seems hard but you need to tell someone... like a teacher or the police... yes he may be put in jail but he will get the help he needs their. And you could hopefully move in with family if this happens or your mother could get a job. It is the best thing to do... for the entire family.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 9

Go to the police, it's the only way to make it stop. He will get locked up, but he needs to be. THere are outreach and support programs in the case he goes to jail.

Better your mom has to go out and get a job to make a living, than he beats you dead (or her).

Do it. Tell the police. Tell teachers. Tell neighbors. Tell other family. Tell anyone who will listen. Your guidance counselor might have other places to call.

Answer 10

wow THATS bad. well, you should call the police when hes not around. it will be better if hes locked up. get a restraining order. if your worried about money then have your mom apply for unemployment checks or go to DHS and have your mom apply for health, life, and dental insurance. and food stamps. my mom once had no job. she is single too. have your mom divorce the man. he obviously has NO respect for you or your mother and needs to have STRICT consequences for his actions. that is not the type of thing that a family should have to deal with. i am so sorry that you have to put up w/ that but if anyone finds out, then your mother might be locked up to for child abuse and puttng you in danger. this is a serious matter and its up to one of you to resolve it.

Answer 11

It is a tough situation, but no-one should have to live like that. I would tell the school nurse, and let the law take it from there. They might force him to Therapy to help with anger management,,,, You never know what the future will hold,,, but the present is not looking to good at this moment. Good Luck.