Teen pregnancies?

Question

Ok I'm a teen mom and my friend is like 17 and she has a 3 yr old now she is pregnant again! What do you think of teen parents? Why don't some teens learn from their mistakes? Do you think 13 and 15 yr old girls should be havin sex!!!!!!!!!

some people are judging me but yea i have a one month old son but i don't even have sex any more i don't wanna be on walfare. and if i do think about having sex again i i am goin to get on birth control one baby is enough for me!

Answer 1

People used to assume I was some whore because I was 19 with two children. Little did they know I was engaged, both children were born after I turned 18, etc...lol. I know my kids were close and people assumed once again that I didn't believe in birth control or something. Now ladies, be serious. Would you really want two kids who are just under a year apart? I know I didn't but I also didn't believe in abortion. I don't really judge teen parents unless they aren't taking proper care of their children. I did tend to be a little judgmental when I saw a girl from school single with a baby, not working, yet going to college full time. I would get so angry about that because that was the one thing I wanted. I didn't want to be single but I wanted to go back to school. It doesn't bother me now though because I'm finally able to go back this year. I have no idea why some teens don't learn from their mistake. I explained my story about having 2 kids by 19...lol. If I had to do it all over again, I probably would have gotten the same type of birth controls I was on. I love my girls. As far as younger teens having sex, I really don't agree with it. I was a virgin until I met my husband at 17. I guess people are just different though.

Answer 2

I had a miscarriage at 16... we used protection but as we all know it isn't 100% effective. We learned to be a lot more careful and are not nearly as sexually active as we were then. (I'm 19 now). We are still together and will soon start planning the wedding. I'm glad that I have him because I know that not even a teen pregnancy would send him running. Essentially it strengthened our relationship even though we both know that a baby would have changed our lives forever. I know many people who are teen parents. Some are probably some of the best parents that I have ever met and some still act like they are 13. It all depends on how much responsibility that person is willing to take as well as how much of the responsibility the grandparents take in raising the child. At this point people need to stop judging teen parents because they already had the child and that won't change. Some teenagers do not have good role models at home so they do as they please while some, including myself, we're raised properly and know that they should wait to have sex. But the reality is many parents and schools just are not able to reach the kids because they all think 'it wont happen to me'. I definately think 13 and 15 are too young. I think that it is odd though the more we hear don't have sex, the more teenagers get pregnant...

Answer 3

I don't think anyone should be having sex unless they're willing to deal with all the possible consequences, and that includes possible diseases and pregnancy. I know alot of people who would say that as long as you're careful and use protection it's okay, but nothing is 100%.

I chose not to have sex until I was certain that I was ready to handle the consequences. I was still in college and didn't have a good job, but I knew that even if I did get pregnant, I would be able to work my way through the rest of school and get a job, and that even if it was difficult I would make it work. My fiance and I discussed this beforehand and made sure that both of us were on the same page.

I think very few, if any, teenagers are ready for that type of responsibility. Financially, I can almost guarantee they aren't. Having a baby is expensive and a lifetime commitment. I personally think it would be great for every teenager who wants to have sex to have to see what it would be like to raise a baby for a few days. We had projects in college like this where we had to take care of dolls for a certain period of time and then do a report on different types of expenses. Most of the people in class came out of it saying, "Wow, I'm not ready for this," and many were amazed at how much everything cost.

This doesn't even begin to mention the emotional consequences and what not. I waited until I was ready and I knew I was ready, and it was a wonderful experience for me. I have many friends who had sex the first time because they were pressured into it, or because they thought they were supposed to, or because they thought it would help them keep the guy. Most of them ended up regretting it. In my opinion, if you're scared then you're not ready. If you can't have an adult conversation with the man concerning things like birth control, sexual history, and that sort of thing, then I don't think you're ready.

Honestly, I don't know why people make the same mistakes over again. Maybe for your friend it seems easier this time. She's three years older and hopefully more mature, and maybe she thinks she can handle it better this time around. Or maybe she, like you said, just hasn't learned from her mistakes.

To be honest, it's nice to see someone like you who is being responsible. You have recognized your mistake but are willing to do the best you can with it and take responsibility for it, which alot of people aren't. I wish all teen mothers would be more like you in this regard.

Answer 4

I think someones sex life is none of my business as long as they are safe.

I believe that some teens do not learn from there 'mistakes' mostly because even tho they have had children they still have a hard time talking to their partner about birth control. It still to them is a touchy subject.

I do not think bad of anyone at any age having children, as long as they take care of them the best way they can. I am also not one for people being on welfare when they can work. I feel that the government should help out family's but that working should be a part of it.

SCHOOL should be always be finished along with college. When you are young and have children they should ALWAYS finish school and go to college.

Answer 5

I think people make bad choices in life, but sometimes there is something great comes out of them ya know lol......Is your friend still with the same guy yes i can say I think being a teenager and a parent is HARD, but I can not contadict myself, and 13 and 15yr old girls are having sex, and shouldnt be the pregnancy rate for teens went down tramindously in my state, but is slowly going back up and the averge age is 14-16yrd old..........but you cannot stop your child from doing things(you can try your darndest lol) but locking your child in the house, or telling them that sex is the devil etc. is just ganna make them rebel, or somthing like that. I dont know but I think Birthcontrol should be offerd more, and more classed should be givin at schools about sex ed, about being a teen parent.......maybe it would open some kids eyes i dont know !

Answer 6

I feel bad for teen parents. I was 18 when I had my daughter, but I was all alone. The father was a jerk, and I don't have much family. I feel bad because kids don't realize how much a baby will change their lives. We all want to grow up so fast, and then when you are in the real world, it sucks. The teen moms that I can't stand are the ones with 2 or more kids with different fathers, not working, on welfare. I learned after having my daughter. I got my ged and started college, and worked full time. I hope your friend takes good care of her kids. And good for you for realizing that her lifestyle isn't right.

Answer 7

I'm sad for these teen moms, obviously they lacked something at home that they were going somewhere else for love and affection. It's sad that they had to go out and have sex to feel love, and that they got pregnant in the process. Most teen moms lose out on a lot of their childhood because they're busy at home taking care of a baby. Teen moms will never know what it's like to be their own entity, to be in charge of just them, not to have anyone in charge of them, or to be in charge of someone else, to be a free agent so to speak.

No, I don't think 13 and 15 year old girls should be having sex, I think that they should be at home with their parents or at the movies, being kids.

Answer 8

i think a lot of parents think they can control their kids sexual urges by just telling them not to have sex because they said so. i think instead parents should realize if they kid wants to have sex they will find a way, and instead of yelling and grounding their child they should get them birth control and learn to have a relationship with their child, so their child can talk to them if they need too. A lot of kids are immature and are asking their immature friends advice on sex, so its the blind leading the blind. your friend obviously wasn't making the best judgments, especially the second time around. you are a teen mom yourself and you say how your friend had a baby at a young age but you got pregnant too. so sometimes people don't learn from their mistakes or the mistakes of others. it takes some people longer than others to realize thats not what they want. good luck.

Answer 9

Teens need to look to the future -- theirs and their child, if they have one.
Without education, there is no decent job, with no decent job, there is no money for home and food. If a teen becomes pregnant, you dislike the fact that they are pregnant, but obviously would love the baby.
Do I think 13 and 15 year olds should be having sex, absolutely not. There is a time for everything including sex. Not 13 & 15.

Answer 10

No i do not think that 13 year olds should be having sex. The average age is 16 when they do start having sex and i say if your going to be having sex get on birth control because if you are adult enough to have sex and get pregnant then you should be adult enough to move out of your parents home and provide for yourself and your own.
I would not imagine having a baby and then still leaving with my parents depending on them for money and to watch my child for me all the time. That is not right. Grandparents should not have to raise their grandkids nor provide for them.
I think that the whole teenage pregnancy thing is wrong.
Why don't they learn? I think it comes down to common sense which i think alot are lacking.