My son is 18 & his 17 year old girlfriend of 6 months is pregnant. They plan on getting married as soon as she turns 18 next January. She doesn't have a car & lives about 30 miles from us. & her parents have strict rules about them being alone & un chaparoned ( I know, it's odd). I don't need comments about this.
The girl thinks we hate her, she's very jealous of any time my son spends with us & gets mad at him if he goes to the store with me or talks to me instead of her for 30 minutes or so.
We don't hate her, we don't really know her.
How do I get to know her?
2007-03-18 14:09:43 · 6 answers · asked by tinybell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take her shopping and buy her something pretty.
2007-03-18 14:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's very young, she isn't even done being raised yet, so your son had sex with an underage girl. She is trapped and she knows it. She may change her mind and not marry him, i hope she begins to like herself enough to realise that your approval doesn't matter. of course she feels resentful and confused.
look on her as if she were your own daughter, you will have to go out of your way to be nice to her. it sounds like you and your son are already talking about her behind her back. stop it now, and tell your son chances are at her age she will never stay with him for her life.
2007-03-18 14:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 17 year old pregnant girl is probably feeling very insecure about herself and her future. I would suggest asking her to brunch and a manicure. I know you probably don't want to spring for a "day with the girls" type day with her, but she needs to feel comfortable around you. She will feel most comfortable (probably) in a public place. Girls love getting manicures with their friends, so this will help heer see you as a friend and ally, not her boyfriend's mother. Be gentle with her, her emotions are probably going haywire, but if she feels like you are genuinely interested in her interests, likes, dislikes and her life then she is more likely to open up to you. You need to try to build a relationship of mutual respect with her, if she feels like you respect her, she's more likely to treat you with kindness, respect and she'll probably ease up on the jealousy bit.
2007-03-18 16:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by emmyhalli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps have her and her parents over for dinner. You are all about to be united as one family and will all be there to support the marriage of your own children and your future grandchild. Get it all started out on the right foot and show the other parents and the girl that you are willing to do what it takes to make their marriage and the raising of your grandchild succesful.
Good luck!
2007-03-18 14:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep up with ur normal life, she might still immature. Your son has to show her that she's not respecting his family. Once a family forever will be. He has his rights to love his family. If you have a chance you can take her out like getting ready for her maternity clothes or go eat and explain to her your feelings.
good luck
2007-03-18 14:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
invite her over for a FAMILY dinner. you and her should cook spend some quality time that way keep the conversation light because you dont want to freak her out. but give her a reason not to think you guys hate her. and tell her you think she's a great girl
2007-03-18 14:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by blondiechick033 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋